To wonder how so many people love them

[Youcanttouchthis]

Boredom and scrolling through Instagram stories and see posts from friends of friends, sort of loose acquaintances and see when it’s their birthday for example, so many posts from so so many people. They just have so many friends who speak so very highly of them and show the love.
How does this happen? Are these just very special people who make friends with everyone they meet? I have friends, but nothing like this, it must be nice!

Instagram is all fake. They possibly don't even know the people writing the comments.

Loads of it is superficial.

If you look at most of these posts you see they aren't about the friend at all, they are usually a collection of photos that include the person posting and some lame platitude about 'our amazing friendship'. Essentially making someone's birthday all about them.

Real friends wish you a happy birthday in private, people who want attention post it on social media so everyone can see just what a good friend they are.

Extroverts attract extroverts. I don't talk about people in that way, ditto my friends. It's very attractive and can leave you feeling very left out.

@picklemewalnuts Sorry I don’t understand what you mean 🤷🏻‍♀️

Unfortunately it isn't as nice as it seems, most of these people will be mere acquaintances or old friends from school etc. Their real life will be the same as you or i, a family and a select group of friends nothing more.

What’s attractive?

You have to speculate to accumulate on social media.

Are the popular friends posting a lot of messages back to these other friends?

That’s the key to becoming popular on social media. If that’s what one so desires.

@Wannabangbang But the things that are said about them, compliments etc, make me thing, wow what an amazing person she must be. My friends and I don’t really tell each other that 🙈although I know we all love one another, it’s generally not said.

its all for the gram - not all of it (most are not) is real. I know someone who paid for their followers, then messaged loads of them promising a give away if they congratulated her on something.

They possibly don’t know the people who have commented. Instagram is mostly fake, people are often a part of groups where they agree to like and comment on one another’s posts basically so they can get 700+ likes and 100 comments but it’s not really real.

you ever see the #followforfollow or #likeforlike or even #commentforcomment? - so many people do it, i dont but so many of my fiends do.

@lioncitygirl But there’s photos of different people with them when out etc, just a massive friendship group, to have so so many people wishing you well on your birthday must be lovely. I don’t put myself out there enough or make as much of an impact as these people,

Youcanttouchthis

Blimey, don't believe everything you see

How many exactly is "so many"?
Hundreds? Fake. Even with the best will in the world you can't sustain so many real ,close friendships.

Tens ? I'd say anything for anything over 20/30 (excluding family) the same applies.

Anything under 15/20 it's plausible enough, especially for someone extroverted,who puts themselves out there and has several friendship groups.

If you mainly like photos, then hop over to Flickr. People use decent camera equipment over there and don't overly rely on filters. A lot of the users will upload the original camera resolution e.g. 3000x4000 so that you can see the detail in the photo (as long as the camera has a good sensor). You don't get the social media "influencer" or so-called "stories" to go with the photos, because the photos speak for themselves.

@Norwaydidnthappen

They possibly don’t know the people who have commented. Instagram is mostly fake, people are often a part of groups where they agree to like and comment on one another’s posts basically so they can get 700+ likes and 100 comments but it’s not really real.

Lol it isn't .

I know heaps of real people who do this about other real people .

Makes me feel a bit icky 😂

I know what you mean op, likewise every birthday now requires balloon display, flowers and wrapped presents all arranged the night before

I said I think it's attractive meaning it makes me wish I had friends like that, was like that. But I'm not and couldn't be. It still makes me feel left out though!

Real friends buy a card - a stamp - remember to post it in time. Half a dozen of them are worth hundreds of Insta friends who don't even qualify as acquaintances.

@katy1213

Real friends buy a card - a stamp - remember to post it in time. Half a dozen of them are worth hundreds of Insta friends who don't even qualify as acquaintances.

I rarely do cards, much less post them. I'm real.

An ex-friend of mine always used to have hordes of people wishing her a happy birthday, but on the other hand, she used to spend almost the entire month beforehand making absolutely sure that everybody and their dog knew it was going to be her birthday.

On Instagram it could just be followers rather than real friends, so I wouldn’t set too much store by that.

Some people do have bigger social circles than others, which is often just down to luck, timing, personality or the effort put in to maintaining friendships when you live far apart. I wouldn’t dwell on it too much; it’s nice to have a few good friends, but provided you have a decent support network that suits you and your circumstances that is all you need.

Ignore everyone else and think about your own situation. Do you genuinely want to have more friends?
If so then you need to put the work in. Start today by texting someone you haven’t seen for ages to ask how they are. Phone a relative up to check up on them.
When we are out of lockdown be the person making the arrangements to meet up.
If you want to have lots of friends you can, but it’s hard work it doesn’t just happen.

I have but have never really used my Instagram. I joined so I could see a photo of a long time online gaming mate. He also W aged to show me the dishes he cooks with his Mum and his Mum. Many of his friends immediately friended me, I don’t know them. Realised straight away it’s about gathering popularity through amount of followers . One of my nieces has thousands of followers, she is incredibly attractive. I see instagram as incredibly shallow.

Real cards are nice I had 30 on my 30th birthday I always think that was my peak in popularity terms.