Kicked when I am down

[SugarfreeBlitz]

One of my relatives knows that I need to go to the hospital for tests, yet has caused a huge drama by ignoring me completely and telling everyone in the family that I'm ignoring her, so my family have decided to gang up on me. It has happened before and I nearly committed suicide, but had therapy and am still here.

Fortunately Im having therapy again and have seen it all before. This is the first time in my life that I am standing up for myself. I feel these people are acting like sharks getting a taste of blood. Not sure where I am going with this, but if I have anything serious wrong with me I will be forced to keep it a secret to avoid more abuse.

Do you live with this person? If not, you need to stop sharing info with them. And, potentially, stop having any contact.

I think we need a lot more info but from the little you have said, you need to block these toxic people, related or not, out of your life. This doesn't sound normal and I'm sure there is a huge back story.

You should ignore them for real. Since you are having all the aggro anyway, make it at least worth it and get rid of them.

Anyone who is toxic should be cut out of your life, family or not.

They are related and I don't live really near any of them. The back story is I have been scapegoated my entire life and am trying to get more healthy and have a life.

So don't tell them things then

Just cut contact, it's the only way.

I didn't mean to tell them, I was having a conversation with a family member who I happened to mention something to, thinking it was a good thing and they told me my problem was abnormal- and when I rang the Dr they sent me for tests. I can't say what without outing myself.

It always happens that everytime anything is wrong with me, I am left alone to deal with it and bullied by all of them. I am used to never having any validation or kindness. I have a great partner and kind friends, so I just try to limit interactions with the "toxic ones".

It's shit when you realise those that are meant to care for you don't. All I can advise is go no or low contact, don't give tell them anything that can be twisted and thrown back at you, be your own cheerleader, give yourself praise where its due because at least that way you will know you have stood on your own two feet, dealt with all life can throw at you and you've done it all by yourself.

@WhatsTheEffingPoint it is! There are things I've let go for years like always being left out of family get togethers, my kids being snubbed, like always being the only one not to know something that the others all know, like them having a go at me (just for being ME ) , fat shaming, saying they feel sorry for my partner for having to live with me and going behind my back to try and get gossip about me.

I am sure as I go through therapy there will be more. But the general message in all of it is "you are evil, bad, selfish, wrong, ugly, not fit for our family, not good enough" I work hard in my chosen career, but that is "wrong" as well because I'm selfish to pursue a career that I chose. I am going to continue writing here as seeing it all written down makes me see that it was never about me.