Told me he has never felt this way before then blocked me

[Dupedagain]

I started chatting with a guy i knew a couple of years ago in a work setting about a month ago. We hit it off and were chatting daily, phone calls and meeting. Everything was lovely. I know it's lockdown but we had a kiss.

Then a week ago he told me he had gotten back in touch with his ex, he hadn't known what to do because he thought it was over, then he met me, then she was back on the scene.

I blocked him for a few days then unblocked and asked if we could revert back to friends. He agreed then later that day he told me he couldn't get me out of his head... Two hours later he said he'd ended it with his girlfriend.

The next day we chatted on the phone, all was as before but he kept asking if we could make a proper go of things, very flirty chat although i felt bad that he'd ended a relationship. He said he'd never felt this way before and didn't want to lose the chance with me.

Then the last two days he ghosted me and last night he blocked me on whatsapp. I can see how this is going to look so obvious to everyone that he was lying and cheating but I'm gutted. I really liked him until he told me he was back in touch with the other woman. I guess he chose her.

What's worse is he has a black eye, he told me when he ended it, the other woman grabbed his phone and wrote down my details and kicked him.

Ffs, argh what a toxic horrible mess. I feel so sad i lost this chance even though it obviously was never there and not worth it. And also worried about him. And being blocked is making me feel anxious about that as well.

It's clear he's a liar so there's no reason to believe him about the origins of his black eye. He's trying to keep you interested whilst calling all the shots.

You've had a very lucky escape, even though I understand it doesn't feel like it.

Yes, I think he's likely lying. Unless she's a kickboxing champ, how has her kicking him given him a black eye? Or did she kick him while he was lying down? Seems very unlikely.

He sounds like the type of manipulative tosser I encountered in my naive youth. Why see any positives about him at all? He has treated you like rubbish. Block him and move on. Work on self love

No i saw he has a black eye in a work meeting (we don't work together however occasionally are involved in the same meetings). He told me she kicked him and bruised his leg.

Thank you Rosey, yes i guess you're right. I just thought i knew him better, i tricked myself into believing him.

You dodged a stress bullet there, OP. At least you weren't in a relationship with this dithery drama llama.

You're worried about him (remember you've no way at all of knowing the truth about how he got that black eye, you've only got his spin on it) and how do you know he's even worrying himself about you? He's with someone else messing with her feelings too (if she exists, that is).

You'll feel sad for a bit then get over it. Some people aren't worth the angst, with all this mess in the early stages it's plain as day.

It hurts now but you will look back on this and think how lucky you were it ended sooner rather than later!

Thank you Dee, yes, it's all so dramatic. I don't have a clue what to believe, i find it hard to imagine someone else being so sucked in to this nonsense as well

Thank you Muddle. Yes, you're right. He was a bit of the one that got away, i did like him a couple of years ago but never did anything then. At least i now know what he's like.

Honestly it sounds like you are best out of it.

And never fall for all the "I've never felt this way before" line. It's always bollocks spewed by idiots. It took me a long time to realise that normal, emotionally well functioning people don't use language like that.

He’s a liar. Stay well away

Don’t feel at all sad. You’ve had a lucky escape! He’s obviously a liar who was just waiting to see if his ex reappeared. Sorry OP, but don’t listen to him if he gets back in touch.

Ghosting isn’t something a decent man does, it’s not ok behaviour. Draw a line under this and move on.

Thank you. I emailed him to say i felt sad that there was not even an explanation. He said sorry, and then called me. I said no hard feelings, if you get a chance at happiness you have to grab it with both hands and he said he felt confused about his feelings. He's unblocked me but no profile photo on whatsapp, think he's deleted me as a contact.
Meh he's rejected me twice now, that's enough, i hope he doesn't get back in touch.

I wouldn’t have any more communication with him at all , don’t get drawn back in.

Try and stop wondering what he’s been playing at , you’ll never get to the bottom of it and you’ll only drive yourself mad .

Plus all this blocking and unblocking is so bloody childish , proper teenage behaviour.

So he got back with his ex, you blocked him then you unblocked him then he ghosted you.
Bollox to that!
Think you need to move on, I suspect that you won't.

Yes, it's ridiculous. I think it was just so intense i didn't really get any time to think it through properly. In hindsight i should have kept him blocked or just deleted his number and moved on.
I will move on, of course i will. I just feel a bit hurt and saddened now