to consider going completely on strike so dh gets the idea that i do actually do something all day other than swan about doing lunch and quaffing lattes???

[belcantavinissima]

which is obv what he actually thinks and thinks i do sod all despite the fact that

a) he is always at worktil at least 7pm and the house is tidy when he gets home and his dinner in oven

b) we have food in the cupboards

c) he does bugger all despite his proclamations at being the housework saviour. who does he suppose does everything? the sodding fairies?

d) yesterday he made dinner, and i have had to praise him and fawn over him for it ever since. whgich i dont get. ever. obviously (because all i do is 'have a lovely time')

so am considering going on strike and only cooking bare essentials for kids so they dont waste away. is that unreasonable? should i just write a list every night???

You don't swan about all day doing lunch and quaffing lattes?!!?

What's wrong with you woman!!!???

Scattyspice - my DH doesn't care either.

He got in the car yesterday and i started explaining about how I hadn't been home all day (doctor etc with sick child), so it was the same state it was when he left (I had big "I'm gonna sort this crap" plans)... he pointed out that he had never once said he cared what the house looked like

I'd go for lunch and lattes if you can get away with it.

i made a rod for my own back this moring though when was telling him a funny story which involved me and dd going to local lovely cafe yesterday moring for latte and bacon sandwich and to the park to kick leaves.

meemar:"I don't know of any SAHMs who ask their working husbands what they do all day!"

No, but they often wonder it in a slightly way, don't they? And I've heard/seen people (here and in RL) claiming that hubby has the "easier" option for going out to work.

I frequently go on strike!!! You do pay the price though - all that tidying up after a strike day. In fact I am currently on strike...Need some sort of union??

My husband never cooks, his idea of cooking is to put a pizza in the oven or a ready meal in the microwave.
Before children, he used to work in Bristol and had a 40 minute commute and i worked in Cardiff and used the train so my commute could sometimes be almost 2hrs if i missed my train.
But even then, after me being out of the house for almost over 12hrs he still waited for me to get back at around 7pm and COOK him his dinner.
When my DD1 was only 3yrs old and i had a 6month old DD2 i used to get really stressed around 5pm trying to juggle everything and cook dinner and tidy the house.
Then i discovered my saviour... a SLOW COOKER.
Just means i can prepare everything in the morning when i had more energy and there was no manic racing around at 5pm.
Just boil some potatoes or rice and all done!
Took a lot of stress away and we had and still have lovely, tasty home made meals.
AB

pretty similar here, i was ill yesterday DP took the day off work to look after baby. today i have had to wash every dish in the house, do the shopping and all the housework that wasnt done yesterday... his solution is to get a dishwasher

My husband is not bothered about the state of the house, as long as he can walk in it without tripping over too many things he's cool about it.
My best friend has a DH who i think is a bit of a bully as he would have a go at her if ONE toy was out when he came home.
He wanted it to be immaculate for when he got home.
She wanted to dump ALL the toys on the floor and put his dinner in the CAT! .
AB

Blimey, there are a lot of feckless men out there! I certainly would go on strike if I were you. My DH is wicked, he helps out with everything, but occasionally when I sense the division of household/childcare labour is slipping toward me having the lion's share, I go out for the day. I leave straight after breakfast without washing the breakfast dishes, take DS to a friend's or somewhere fun for the day, and don't get back until dinner time, when I show up and ask 'What's for dinner, then?'. Works a treat.

They're all the same then!