Aibu about this?

[Reallynothappyanymore]

Ok, so dp has a habit of grabbing me, tickling me, grabbing my boobs. I don't like it....and I have told him so.

He just insists that I do, that I love the attention and that because (apparently) I am trying not to laugh or smile I am lying when I say I don't.

I have told him I want him to stop doing it but he just thinks I don't mean it. I have told him it's abuse if I've told him to stop and he carries on doing it but he just thinks that is funny.

If i am upset he will back me into a corner to try to tickle me even though I ask him not to but he is so certain this is what I need. Or he will just insist on cuddling me even though I ask him not to.

Am I being too precious?

Next time you see him grab his balls and twist. Whilst smiling and say its a sign of affection...

No, slap him in the face.
This’ll probably get deleted.

He can't torment you if you leave him.

Precious? He's sexually assaulting you on a regular basis and telling you that you enjoy the assaults. He's disgusting.

Please please value yourself more highly than to put up with this abusive twat. He knows full well you don't like it - he does it BECAUSE you don't like it

I’d divorce him and report to the police.

That's outrageous! What's wrong with him!?! X

Why do you want to stay with someone 2hontreats you like a piece of meat and doesn't respect your wishes?

He just insists that I do, that I love the attention and that because (apparently) I am trying not to laugh or smile I am lying when I say I don't.
Who’s the boss of what you think and feel, him or you? He’s a twat.

Thank you all so much for your replies.

I didn't think I was being unreasonable but I have been in this relationship for 10 years so have lost sight of what's normal...I have nc'd for this but am a regular poster.

I have thought about posting this a few times but thought it might be me being over sensitive. It seems not!

Thank you.

YANBU.
And obviously don't take the advice upthread to slap him etc. He's goading you, seeing how far he can push it before you snap and then he can make out you're the abusive one.

@ErrolTheDragon

YANBU. And obviously don't take the advice upthread to slap him etc. He's goading you, seeing how far he can push it before you snap and then he can make out you're the abusive one.

No I won't do that.

I do stand up for myself and verbally tell him time and time again that he needs to stop....I have even told him its sexual abuse and he just thinks this is funny....oh wow when you write it down I don't know why I have put up with it!

He is disrespecting your boundaries again and again. He is treating you like his possession. I wouldn't stand for this.

He sexually assaults you repeatedly and pretends it's a joke. Awful.

Oh lord! That sounds absolutely horrible. I'm afraid if someone was tickling and grabbing me like that - I'd have snapped WAY before now! Would give me the rage.
I have no idea what to say ... I couldn't live it . I guess you have to speak to him very seriously away from any incidents. I can't see much hope for a man who refuses to respect your body or your mind.

It’s awful

He is being abusive. Next time he does it I would be shouting at him, really raging, and then giving him the silent treatment until he apologised, no cooking, no washing, no nothing

And that would be happening each and every time he did it until he has learnt not to

I have told him I want him to stop doing it but he just thinks I don't mean it. I have told him it's abuse if I've told him to stop and he carries on doing it but he just thinks that is funny.

He does know you mean it.

He finds it funny and / or gets off on the fact he is getting away with doing it anyway.

Is that kind of man the kind of man you want to be with? It shouldn't be.

He's literally sexually assaulting you and openly telling you, to your face, that he finds it funny.