Anyone else not planning on resuming hugging and kissing every bugger once we're allowed

[FredSoftly]

My in-laws are lovely but very huggy. I have some friends who like to kiss both cheeks in the way that the French do so effortlessly but we Brits tend to bungle.

I've enjoyed not having to hug and bash noses since last March and don't want to resume.

Anyone else?

@FredSoftly

Those of you who are members of the huggerati, do you ever sense your enthusiasm is not reciprocated?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

I can see when handshakes become necessary again (why they would I don't know and I can't work out why an elbow bump was needed instead ) that I some people will gel immediately afterwards and that may look rude!

I'm Scottish and we only really hug and kiss relatives (and very close friends unless it's Hogmanay) so the only time I had to do that was when visiting colleagues at the London office.

I will be delighted if that is no longer a requirement.

Coffee a colleague of mine lost her mum recently. When she returned I hugged her (both in masks anyway as have to wear them in area we were in). But as we work together closely and count as a bubble in work for isolation/close contact purposes I just decided it made no difference.

This thread is reminding me of the friends episode where they have Phoebe and Mikes rehearsal dinner and Ross goes for handshake and Mike gives him a hug.

"I was going for a handshake"
"That's why your hand is on my crotch"

"Yeah, that'll be why" 🤣🤣🤣

@itsgettingwierd

This thread is reminding me of the friends episode where they have Phoebe and Mikes rehearsal dinner and Ross goes for handshake and Mike gives him a hug.

"I was going for a handshake"
"That's why your hand is on my crotch"

"Yeah, that'll be why" 🤣🤣🤣

Big Friends fan (as my username may suggest for other Friends fans lol)

@WhoWants2Know

As a rule, I don't like people hugging me. I let my Italian friend get away with it because I don't get to see her often, but everyone else can continue to back off. Even shaking hands is something that I would prefer to avoid if possible.

I'm half-Italian so will be hugging and kissing the people I love when it's safe and allowed. It's what I've missed most of all. You can do whatever you want/don't want to do, but don't try and stop me doing what comes naturally!

@MrsTerryPratchett

Thank you!

I havent missed it,I hate people coming into my personal space. They seem offended that I don't hug 😕 people really need to respect boundaries, if they like hugs great but they should ask first not just assume then get offended when you back away.

I don't mind a handshake and will actively initiate one if it looks as if some filthy germ infested hugger is coming at me

I am tall though, and long arms so it still preserves my space. I do not get close enough for an elbow clasp which helps to cut off those handshake yank into a hug types.

When deemed safe by the scientists after the pandemic is finally over then sure bring it on as all options are open! I am not always the most huggy but have many overtly friendly continental friends and neighbours in our a newish central London international quarter residential development. As well as some conversely from highly religious and hierarchical gender segregated cultural backgrounds so I tend to go with the flow to blend in as appropriate between body languages from animated southern Mediterranean and Latino to more formal reserved East Asian and strict Arabian etc. Not necessarily always stereotypically true though.

Absolutely won’t be hugging anyone. I have DH (who I do actually like hugging) and a list of about three friends I’m willing to tolerate being hugged by. Everyone else knows not to even try it. I’m willing to wave at them from a short distance if they’re particularly huggy people, but that’s as far as it goes.

I’m not from a family of huggers. My brother will occasionally awkwardly hug me goodbye once or twice a year if nobody is watching us and I haven’t hugged my mum since I was a very small child. I love her dearly and we’re very close, but we don’t do hugs. It would be very weird to start now.

Yeah, I'm not a hugger, particularly of folks I barely know. It's a much more modern thing, I think - I certainly don't remember hugging friends at school in the 1970s.

Agree with those who say it feels awkward and uncomfortable.

I don't mind shaking hands. I wash mine anyway. Hands can't be worst - or better - than lift buttons, work phones, door handles, shopping trolleys.

Unwanted hugs? completely unnecessary.

@therealteamdebbie

I don't mind shaking hands. I wash mine anyway. Hands can't be worst - or better - than lift buttons, work phones, door handles, shopping trolleys.

Unwanted hugs? completely unnecessary.

Nothing worse than a limp sweaty/ clammy handshake. Give me a germ invested lift button over that any day!

Good lord no I wasn't a hugger before this I won't be after. Nothing will make me run faster than people who announce they are huggers irl as it invariably means they are far more interested in their own need for hugging than anyone elses boundaries.

Weirdly i am very tactile and buggy with DC and DP. But you know...two I have birth to and one I share a bed with so that's basically my criteria for hugging. I have to have reproduced you or listen to you snore of a night. Small group of people fortunately meet that criteria.

Nothing to do with the virus....I just don't like people as a rule.

I'm going to avoid like crazy. Didn't shield/strictly social distance for a year and counting to suddenly be all touchy feely. Vaccine isn't 100% effective so, nope