AIBU to give up with it?

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Naps.

The bane of my life. I’ve posted several times probably late last year sometime. My 19 nearly 20 month old hasn’t napped since 16 months. She was fab for a long time not really overtired or cranky but now she wakes around 7-8:30am it varies. By 11am she’s exhausted but goes in stages where she’s fab then stages where she is so cranky. Lately it’s more the cranky that’s why I’m posting.

I persisted around 4 weeks to see if it was sleep regression moved naps around moved bedtime done lots and she never napped again. when she did nap we would have a bedtime fight no nap she goes down like a dream. What do I do? I tried a few days last week to get her to nap but she doesn’t want to so she resists it. She won’t nap in car pram downstairs or anything tried it all. She is clearly tired but won’t nap.

she sleeps 7pm-7am/8:30am pretty consistently. Do I just accept the cranky or do I force nap and risk a disruption to the routine?

Any advice welcome. Also sorry for AIBU posting here for traffic.

Any advice?

Some votes but no suggestions.

Get in the car and drive? Or walk with buggy?

@lemonsquashie that’s still a no she won’t nap then either I don’t know if o should just stop trying because she does sleep through it’s just being cranky in the day

Can you have a "quiet hour" maybe sit in front of the tv with her or just have a cuddle on the sofa for an hour and see if this helps as a rest.

Just have quiet time or go for a walk with her in the buggy.

16 months old is young but not impossibly so to drop a nap. I'd just go with it if she sleeps so well overnight.

My daughter refused to nap in her cot at 14months.
The difference here is that she would sleep in the car/pushchair, & annoyingly at the childminders, but there she slept on the sofa.

She woke at least twice a night till she was gone 2 years old, so if I were you, I would love the fact your daughter sleeps the night.

I agree with the others about quiet time when she’s particularly cranky.

I’ve given up, my little one dropped naps before his turned 1!

I’d give it up if I were you. My kids all dropped their naps under 2. Having some quiet time mid day helps prevent over stimulation but I think it’s worth noting that the grumpiness might not be because she’s tired. Maybe she’s bored or frustrated. I think lack of language skills can
Make them cross at this age, the understanding is fairly good but the ability to articulate lags behind.

Thanks for the replies. I just don’t know my mother is saying she’s having tantrums so I should shout at her 🤔🤔🤔 apparently my sisters son had one tantrum his mum shouted and he never had another. Miracle baby. She’s not naughty by any means she’s very pleasant just if she really is tired she’s a bit temperamental but aren’t we all? She kicked off earlier saying night so I took her up done the usual settling then she screamed in bed crying for 30 mins on and off I kept going in and out. Then I got her up and she kicked off about that didn’t want to get up but I mean she wouldn’t have slept I’ve had like 13 weeks of knowing If she doesn’t sleep at first she won’t at all so it’s hard and I have a 6 month old. At night goes down like a dream

So the general opinion is I am being unreasonable to give up on naps

Mine didn't nap at all by that age. They were cranky but I think that is the default thing of being a baby. I apparently didn't nap much either. I have friends whose DC napped right through to age 3 and was muchos jealous. I do think a routine walk at non naptime is a good idea but otherwise I think why spend the next year fighting to make your child sleep when they aren't going to. I wasted months of my PFBs babyhood fighting the no nap thing and gave up and everything was easier. I didn't even bother with the other one. Mine were in wraps during the day sometimes so had plenty of opportunity. Babies drop their naps at different ages so really this is down to what you two (you and DC) can make work for the both of you.