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To have a little moan about the worst group of boys ever.

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Lastfreakinglegs · 28/02/2021 15:29

We've just walked to a lovely sandy beach which is luckily just over a mile from our house. It was just me and my 9 and 5 year old boys.

We sat down and started making sandcastles. I then went to the chip kiosk 1 nearby, literally up some steps and had the children in my sight all the time. By the time I'd got back a group of 3 mums and about 7 tween boys had set up camp just next door (breaking lockdown meet up rules but whatever). There was one little girl in the group who was quietly playing with my youngest so I let them get on with it.

But then the group of boys who she was presumably with took it as a green light to start messing with the sandcastle my children had built. I asked them politely if they would leave it alone and make their own, which they ignored. Eventually I told them straight up they were being rude and should leave my 5 year olds sand castle alone. They grudgingly left it but then started loudly saying they were going to build a better one like 3 feet away. They made a tall volcano thing out of sand and kept on saying they were going to get a stranger to judge the best one and they would smash up the loosing one. This went on and on and on. I can't tell you how loud and obnoxious they were whilst their mothers just turned a blind eye and ignored their shitty behaviour. Eventually my 9 year old said he had a tummy ache and headache and wanted to go home. I have no doubt they smashed it all up the second we left. They were brazen saying they were going to smash up our sand castle whilst staring me in the eye (I'm 43!!). They were loud the whole beach could hear them I'm sure.

Ok it's only a sandcastle but their behaviour was totally thug like and their parents were totally oblivious. Even my 9 year old asked why the parents weren't doing anything.

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Jeschara · 28/02/2021 15:34

Yes they were obnoxious, your children are not like it, they have been well bought up.Dont give them anymore headspace
Remember you cant do anything about it so forget it, these rude people are not worth it.

Mosschopz · 28/02/2021 15:38

They weren’t just rude. They revelled in it and allowed it to escalate even though it was challenged. That’s the behaviour of kids who never get held to account by their parents. Be reassured by your 9 year old’s moral reaction that you’re doing a better job.

ChameleonClara · 28/02/2021 15:40

Sadly your children have to learn that unpleasant people exist. I would personally have relocated to another spot probably.

Lucky for your kids they are nicer and happier. I always feel quite sorry for unhappy children like that.

Lastfreakinglegs · 28/02/2021 15:48

@ChameleonClara unfortunately they seemed quite happy being mean. Awful.

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ChameleonClara · 28/02/2021 15:52

[quote Lastfreakinglegs]@ChameleonClara unfortunately they seemed quite happy being mean. Awful.[/quote]
Your children despite having a bad day, are still winning as they are not unpleasant.

You must have met people like this before? They are like it because that is how they get treated.

LadyCatStark · 28/02/2021 15:54

They weren’t very nice but I don’t think they we genuinely the worst group of boys ever!

bruffin · 28/02/2021 15:55

Where do live, its february!

Lastfreakinglegs · 28/02/2021 15:58

Bruffin, Wales amazingly!! Unseasonably warm.

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Loopyloututu2 · 28/02/2021 15:58

“The Worst Group of boys EVER!” Sounds like some kind of Enid blyton book! Grin

Yes, they sound like entitled thuggish brats who’s parents don’t give a shit. Poor kids.
I wouldn’t have left the beach just moved further away. Your dc’s will come across people like this in life OP so best for them to get used to it young!

purplemunkey · 28/02/2021 15:58

@bruffin

Where do live, its february!
By the beach? As do we. We went to the beach today too. Not exactly sun-bathing weather but lovely sunny spring day. Lots of folk out making sandcastles and walking on the beach.
floofycroissant · 28/02/2021 16:01

I get you OP. I recently watched a pair of young-ish twins make a game out of destroying our local volunteer-run park, all the time their mum stood by and watched chatting away to a friend. They were tugging newly planting saplings out of the ground, ripping off large branches and kicking decorative boulders off the top of a wall into the flower borders.

Not ashamed to say I lost it at the wall destruction and let them know it was not ok. They absolutely dgaf, and the mum didn't even notice.

Lastfreakinglegs · 28/02/2021 16:02

@foofycroissant that's awful. I would have lost it too. How can parents stand by and watch that.

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floofycroissant · 28/02/2021 16:06

I know I probably should've had a word with the mum instead, but honestly I felt like there was a little more hope getting through to the young boys.

VivaLeBeaver · 28/02/2021 16:07

If they constantly parent like that the chances are it will come back to bite them on the bum when the kids are older. They’re unlikely to turn themselves into respectful individual who are considerate of others (including their parents). 🤷‍♀️

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