Managing Directors gf - wtf do I do?!

[Missmummy88]

So, there is a huge back story to the mess of my work but to cut a long story very short: md of the company I work for got in a relationship with a colleague. She and I were good friends. I was the only other female in the company and when they got together our relationship soured as she saw me no longer as a friend but threat. Since then, lots of drama and a few female colleagues that have come and gone and most who have been harassed by her in some way or another.

Due to her behaviour she was removed from the company but still did some freelance work but was banned from working with anyone. She now no longer works freelance either.

During the summer I received a number of harrasing messages (hundreds actually) and I informed work of this.

I’ve now been told that there is a glass door review of my company which is clearly designed to look like me as I am the only female to take maternity. The review is seriously scathing. It is also posted on the same date I had e mailed them about the harassment. I have not yet approached work about this, but wtf do I do? I am so so over this - I now have to defend myself to the md when it’s clearly his gf that is trying to frame me. I hate being in this position, and I dread to think what lies she makes up about me where there is no digital footprint to see. I feel like my working environment is so toxic and she’s not even working anymore. Any tips on how to resolve this?

Leave.

I assume it's a small company? You will never be able to drive out or change this level of dysfunction and bad management. Your only real choice is to start job hunting and get out as fast as you can.

I think it is time to find another job, and report any further harassment to the police.

Sounds grim.

I would tell them about it and say if it was you then you would hardly draw their attention to it would you. I would put a police report in about impersonation online . I mean they probably won’t do anything but at least you can tell your work you have also made a police report. File the messages she sent you too.

Yep...all of the above!
Good luck to you!

@LouiseTrees

I would tell them about it and say if it was you then you would hardly draw their attention to it would you. I would put a police report in about impersonation online . I mean they probably won’t do anything but at least you can tell your work you have also made a police report. File the messages she sent you too.

^This

Thank you all. It’s a very small company in a very defined niche which I will struggle to find a similar role, which is at this point one of the only things keeping me there.

Write an email (you need this in writing).

But honestly you need a new job.

@Missmummy88

Thank you all. It’s a very small company in a very defined niche which I will struggle to find a similar role, which is at this point one of the only things keeping me there.

You need to move out of this niche. You can't fix this issue.

You need to be proactive and cover your back. Tell work about the Glassdoor review before they ask you. Explain you can't know for sure who wrote it but that you have been continually harassed by the ex colleague and you will be reporting her to the police for harassment. You need it on file before it looks like you're making excuses.

And do report her to the police. They probably won't do much but if you've already made an official complaint you are protecting yourself should any evidence be needed that this if a future unfair dismissal situation arises.

Your employer obviously know she's a loose cannon if her behaviour has got her sacked.
This is your job. Don't let her

Definitely report to the police as that level of instability is likely to have been previously suffered & reported by others.

Some good advice here, OP. Tell work about it ASAP, keep all the messages from here and if you can start looking for a job too, do! Be as open with them in the meantime as possible. You deserve their sympathy and loyalty for what she’s doing to you.

She sounds like an absolute maniac.

Everything, everything Haffdonga said. Get proactive. Get in front of it.

Sometimes you have to play a bit cute and hopefully you have the harassing messages from ex colleague as an example of the level of crazy the girlfriend is.

Life is too short, bad enough working for someone else at the best of times.
You wouldn't see me for dust.

Did you keep the messages? She sounds unhinged! How can they point fingers at you when she was removed due to her crazy behaviour?

I'd call a meeting with MD and tell him firmly that his gf attempting yet again to stir the pot by framing you with this review is the final straw and that you will be forced to take them to court if dismissed or demoted, or given poor references in the future as a result of the clear harassment they have allowed her to carry out on their staff.

If you leave without clearing this up you will be reliant on them for references.

Agree with everyone else who says report to the police. This is harassment, latterly with the intent of trying to ensure you lose your job (or at least, impacts your career). If you won't find anything as well-paid then try and stick it out, but be clear with the company that it wasn't you (take screenshots etc.) and be clear that you have reported it to the police. I'd also report it to Glassdoor and try and explain - maybe they can remove it?

Report to police, to work and to glass door. No way in hell do you let her frame you. What a psychotic bitch

Report her to the police, put what has happened in plain writing and submit it as complaint at work, inclusive of the fraudulent glassdoor review. I would be making very clear this was not me, that i know who it is, and will be taking any and all legal action required, including against any corporate dismissal put against me should the glassdoor situation be used as 'proof' as part of any constructive dismissal process or continuation of harassment. Keep copies of any messages she has sent you and compile a dated diary of events, facts only, what and when, no opinions as to why etc.

As an aside I would contact glassdoor and request this be removed as fraudulent or considering seeing a solicitor to write up a cease and desist against her in the Hope's it scares her off. If she is idiot enough to do what she is doing then it may well.

I'd screen shot the review - just so I had a record in case she does anything else, you should keep a log in case this continues and keep all material (including the 100's of messages). But unless there is someone beyond the MD you refer to then I think you need to look for a new job. I'm sorry OP, that is rough! You can fight it, but honestly whilst he still has a relationship with her I don't think you will get anywhere.

Glass door should know the IP address of where it was posted from, so you need to report this to them in case it becomes part of a disciplinary and is deleted by its author. You can’t tell your employer you ‘know’ who it, as you have no proof.

I might even be tempted to get some legal advice on this as if you get accused of something you didn't do, your work need to prove it was you in order to dismiss you I would say.

This is quite serious for you.

This sounds very familiar to me. I know of a niche company where the MD has an absolute nightmare GF who had to stop working for them. I’m not registered with Glass Door or I’d be tempted to look at the reviews for them.

Does your home insurance include Legal Cover?

If so, contact them for advice.

I understood you need to leave your email address in order to leave a glass door review? So there would be a footprint of some kind. I would never leave one as I don’t want that following me around for good or ill!

Can you put it back on them and say something like “I’m glad you’ve called this meeting as I’ve been really struggling with being bullied and harassed by an ex colleague for some time. I don’t want to disclose who it is but I would like some general advice on what can be done to stop it.” Don’t make any threats, just ask them for advice and let them put the pieces of the puzzle together about who it is.