I'm in a relationship with a person who struggles with his mental health. On a day to day basis it doesn't bother me. He's usually upbeat. Caring. Enjoys sex, humouress etc and you wouldn't know he suffered. He hit rock bottom a couple of years ago and he's around a year past that point and has carried on looking forward.
Being his girlfriend I've been someone he's opened up too. We are very balanced with everything. One of the things I know is his ten year relationship ended 2 years ago. Sounds like a mixture of both of them. They've remained friends. He has moved on from her and has no interest in going back there. But it's obvious they have both got this soft spot for eachother still and they have never quite let eachother go. They still fill the other in on new love Interests and I remember him telling her about me over a cuppa and she was happy for him but said she knew the day would come.
99% of the time I'm confident in us. But sometimes when he's abit down or mentions her in conversations I feel like she was the love of his life and I sometimes question if I believe truly I'd ever mean as much to him. Although he does say we've clicked in a way he's never experienced and I think we have.
I respect there past. He is very invested in me and we are very close. So I feel secure.
This morning a women that lives in our town appeared on his Facebook page as his newest friend. I'm totally comfortable with him being friends with women. It's just I know who this person is sort of and I really don't think he could possibly know her. She's my age (15 years younger). I went on her page because yes I'm nosy. She is the spitting image of his ex girlfriend. It shocked me. But she's also got similar dogs to what they had together. Overall she is like a clone of her. I feel pretty confident she's a random add based on catching his eye.
I don't want to become insecure. But it was only last week he said he didn't add women to his Facebook only ones from school days etc.
I can't work out why it's bothering me. I just have this feeling he's checked her out and thought she's good looking I'll add her.
Would you worry about this? Or just accept men like looking and if he loves me how he says he does he won't be chasing anyone else?
I feel like this post sounds pathetic but wow they are almost identical.