To be fed up with being asked if we're having another child?

[bantler]

I've namechanged for this but I think I posted before when we found out dh had a low sperm count and his parents kept asking when we were having a dc etc (dh has no siblings).

We decided to just see what happens and I wasn't tracking anything etc. I then found out I was pregnant which was a huge shock.

I gave birth in December and our parents have only met dd once (but haven't held her). But his parents are already asking when we're having another etc. And his mum told him it's unfair that they're missing out on dd being a newborn so we 'have' to have another.

Aibu for being fed up? Wwyd?

No, that would really annoy me. I always feel like people are saying the first/only isn't enough as they are.

I think your DH has to have a word with her and tell her to stop.

I wonder what they'd say if you asked why they only had one child.

They want you to think about TTC when you’ve a 2/3-month-old baby? That’s nuts! Our families live a long way away and have only met our 11-month-old once. I would not respond politely if asked this!

DS15 is an only child (by choice) and this drove me insane. I just used to give a sunny smile and say 'We really had to persuaded to have one because I care so much about the planet and over population. Luckily we got the perfect child first time. Oh look, I think your little Horace is eating his bogies again.' (I don't give AF about population control)

Might not work with MIL. But essentially you need a stock phrase and a bright breezy smile, then a very firm subject change.