Please help!

[NaomisMummy]

Hi I really need some advice as I don’t know where I stand with my rights as a mother.

Long story short... my child’s father lives at home with his mum (so what I thought) and has our little boy on the weekends bringing him back Sunday evening. He has a girlfriend of about 6/7 months and our little boy is nearly 1, his girlfriend also lives with her parents. I have my own house and live alone with our child.

He was taking our child (me unaware and not told) to stop at his girlfriends parents house and when he finally asked me if I mind if he did this and I said no as I didn’t want him mixing in different households he said well I’ve already been doing it anyway and not telling you I live with her now at her parents house.

I told him if this was the case and he now lived with his girlfriend at her parents house I would not stop him seeing his child as long as he was genuinely living their now.

So a couple of months have gone by and i have come to realise I don’t have a clue where he takes our child on a weekend I fully trust he would never put our child in danger but I have never met his girlfriend or her parents. I text him and asked if he would like to give me her address so I know where my baby is on the weekend or in case of an emergency when he has him but he said neither the girlfriend or parents are comfortable giving me the address but I feel I should have a right to know where he takes my child. There has never been any issues between me and his new girlfriend we’ve never spoken but she has blocked me on all social media and so has my fathers child also for no reason.

I need some advice do I have a right to know as a mother where he takes our child to on the weekend and can I say well if your girlfriend and her parents don’t feel comfortable telling me the address of where my child is staying on a weekend I don’t feel comfortable with my child staying there, I don’t think I’m being unreasonable I just find it bizarre as im just trying to be responsible adult. Do I have a right legally to know? Is it illegal for him to withheld the address of where he takes our child when he stops with him?

I had problems where my ex wouldn't say where he was with my children. He even went so far of suggesting it was stalkerish to THE POLICE.

The solicitors advised it would be better to leave it. His Dad was the one who finally cracked the stand off. He quietly made it clear it of course wasn't necessary but was probably how good parents act/ the moral thing to do. He offered to be a sort of "central" point for drop offs too.

But it was about power. Once I stopped pushing and started drawing a line around asking anything he realised he couldn't hold that over me.

He might not be as twisted. Perhaps suggest he could provide your details to whomever he lives with for in case of emergency. Then drop it. He might see sense.

And I believe there's no requirement to provide a safety net for those escaping abuse.