Less lonely with toddler than Dh

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Does anyone ever feel a strange sort of loneliness when you’re with your dh/dp? It’s not like we’re arguing etc, but sometimes I feel flat and sort of lovely after being in his company, but relaxed and happy again when it’s just Dd and I.
It’s nobody’s fault, but I notice it sometimes and it makes me sad, anyone else have this?

*flat and lonely

Yes, all the time and sadly the DC feel the same. I had holidays off at the same time as them a few weeks ago, and DH was still working. We went out on some hikes and day trips, and they declared it to be their favourite holiday ever. He’d be heartbroken if he knew, but to be honest it’s all his own doing- he prefers to sit upstairs watching sports instead of being downstairs with us, and has missed out on so much of their lives.

@Thistles24 So sorry to hear that 😞not fair for the kids. This isn’t an absence of him physically, he’s there (when not at work) but it still can feel lonely, that’s the upsetting part.

Have you asked yourself if you still love him, OP?

@likeafishneedsabike Would that cause the lonely feeling?
I’m not sure..

It’s something I’ve heard friends in RL say after the breakdown of a marriage: ‘I was so lonely in that house/in his company’. I’m sorry if that’s not helpful but it resonates with the choice of words from some people after they have stopped loving their partners.