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Original poster

To think that if you don't want to receive pm's on here you should not be allowed to send them either

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Cheeseandlobster · 26/02/2021 12:51

This will probably be deleted, but there was a thread yesterday where the op was universally told she was being unreasonable and she asked for the post to be deleted as she had "some concerns" Hmm

In the middle of the night she sent me a snarky private message but does not receive private messages herself apparently. This is my first snarky pm so I am new to this but surely this means some posters can send what they want without giving someone the opportunity of replying which at best is plain arrogant but at worse could mean they could send all sorts of nastiness. Is this what happens and should it be allowed?

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JesusInTheCabbageVan · 26/02/2021 13:00

I had no idea people could refuse PMs, but yes, what you propose sounds reasonable to me.

(Also want to know what the PM said now!)

Avelandra · 26/02/2021 13:17

Was this the thread about the binge eating partner? The last I saw the OP hadn't even replied, then today it was gone due to 'real life concerns' Confused

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Cheeseandlobster · 26/02/2021 13:21

Yes the very same. I said it was becoming boring as the op hadnt replied after 9 pages and had probably flounced because she wasnt getting tbe responses she was expecting.

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DinosaurDigestive · 26/02/2021 13:36

I had no idea this was possible....

I agree with you that it shouldn't be allowed as it is completely unfair for someone to be able to message someone something and for that person to be unable to respond.

However, I wonder if she will appear on here!!

Kollin · 26/02/2021 13:38

Is there a way to block someone on here?

As in, she sent you a message then blocked you so you can't reply?

I read that thread, 'twas bonkers in the extreme.

44PumpLane · 26/02/2021 13:39

I agree, you're either in or out.. Its wholly unfair to be able to spout off to others via PM if you refuse to accept PM responses in return.

At the very least you shouod not be able to opt out of a reply should you PM someone.

emilyfrost · 26/02/2021 13:40

There are far too many threads being deleted due to fake “real life concerns” and “being recognised” when it’s actually just OP not liking what she’s hearing.

But yes, YANBU.

LemonadeBudget · 26/02/2021 13:50

Hmm, I've never really thought about it, but yes, that would piss me right off.

YANBU

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Cheeseandlobster · 26/02/2021 13:51

As far as snarky messages go it was pretty tame. Along the lines of So sorry for not replying. NOT!! I was asleep. I didnt expect 800 replies!! She didnt reply at all as far as I could see. But it was the arrogance of sending a message without enabling replies or by blocking me so I cant reply. Its rude. If people want to block others then all communication should not be visible I think

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Cheeseandlobster · 26/02/2021 13:52

@44PumpLane

I agree, you're either in or out.. Its wholly unfair to be able to spout off to others via PM if you refuse to accept PM responses in return.

At the very least you shouod not be able to opt out of a reply should you PM someone.

Or this is a good suggestion
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