Will try and keep this brief. A year ago myself and dh split up due to his financial lies, it was horrendous during the split and I was so sad and just wnated my family back together, we have 2dc. During this break while I was crying he chose this time to go and grt out another finance car he'd had one years before and the debt got wiped so to take another one out was selfish and stupid, i refused to get back with him but then in the end we did get back together. The car is £400 a month with insurance we are no high earnersxless than 30k and on universal credits. Dh has always dropped in i only work oart time and should do more etc I said when we got back together the deal is don't tell me to work full time when we would have £400 spare a month if it wasn't for his car so no i won't work extra and not do school runs, I want to be there for the kids, no judging to other full time workers.
Fast forward a year husband is on the sick with a hernia and I got made redundant, found anither job but that also went wrong again due to lockdown, so he's on the sick for at least another 6 months and I have been doing private cleaning and have started a little cake business to bring extra money in. Money is tight we have nothing spare and I haven't taken any money for myself in months, he has! We've argued today because he's said I now should work full time seeing as he is off and can do thr school runs but my argument is had we not got £400 to pay on a car we would have that spare do why should I work full time?? He's gona crazy at me shouting i won't do anything for the family when it's down, I'm bone idle I won't work for us. This was all infront of the kids, how vile. Can I add he isn't a husband that does much round the house, doesn't cook, doesn't put washing on its an ongoing argument for him to get out of bed, he would stay in bed til 2pm everyday if he could. So am I wrong for refusing to work full time?