To find love again in your forties

[PinkPonyTail]

AIBU to wonder this?

So married at 21 and now 41

He’s a good man and father but no sex, no excitement, no conversation.

Just evenings sat in silence.

AIBU to ask of there could be more or am I too late?

Have pondered this for the last number of years if that matters

IABU - be content
IANBU - there is/could be more

What you're asking now is will something else/better come along if I leave? Perhaps, instead, you need to ask yourself if there is anything worth saving or working on?

You need to know whether there's anything good in this marriage left. You know the answer deep down. If there isn't then you need to have the courage to end it and look to the future, whether that holds love again or not.

If there's something worth saving, what's that harm in giving it one last shot? Give it everything: spice things up, take the lead, start acting how you want things to be i.e. spontaneous, fun, exciting. If he responds then great. If not, then you know what you have to do