Having a bad day

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Had an argument with my partner last night because I treated myself to some AirPods. I bought them for myself as its my birthday at the weekend and its been a pretty rough year, I couldn't celebrate last year as I was in hospital and then diagnosed with cancer so I just wanted to treat myself to something. He went mad at the price telling me we could have used the money on something better. I'm not a spender I very rarely treat myself and never buy something expensive on impulse.
This morning he was in a slightly better mood, so I said I might pop to M&S after work and get some treats for my birthday. I was telling him about the chocolate dipping cream they sell and how I might do a platter of fruit, cake etc to dip in. His response - what's so special about this birthday, its not a big one, why are you making such a fuss. Like its a crimes to treat myself.
Arrived at work still a bit upset, I was talking to my colleagues telling them I think lockdown is starting to get to me and I'm struggling a bit. They all start telling me about how lucky I am that I don't have to juggle home schooling with work and how hard it has been for them (they all have young children I don't).
So I'm sat here in my car eating my lunch wishing I could just get away. Would love to just check into a hotel this weekend and spend some time on my own.

awww sorry OP, Lock down is tough for everyone in different ways, it isn't a competition. Happy Birthday

Im sorry to read about your cancer last year. That must have been a really hard time.
Is he worried about money? I think if my partner spent loads on airpods and then the next morning started talking about treating themselves again I might be a bit frustrated if we already had money worries. If not then he should probably chill out.

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

Im sorry to read about your cancer last year. That must have been a really hard time. Is he worried about money? I think if my partner spent loads on airpods and then the next morning started talking about treating themselves again I might be a bit frustrated if we already had money worries. If not then he should probably chill out.

no money problems at all, we are both lucky with our jobs and our income has stayed the same with covid. We haven't had any holidays this past year, we usually have 2-3 holidays a year so all the money from that has been saved.

He's being unfair then. You can afford it and its your birthday.

So sorry to hear about your cancer last year.

Your DH is a massive arse here, and not very caring at all! He should be organising / suggesting treats for your birthday -and making you feel special - not squashing your ideas and making you feel unimportant. You’d think he’d have learnt to value you after what happened last year! Not at all unreasonable of you to try to treat yourself.

Your colleagues are also unreasonable. It’s not a competition to have it the worst! Still, colleagues don’t really matter in the great scheme of things - it’s on your partner to make a fuss of you.