Totally Exhausted, send me a hand hold?

[YellowMugPuffin]

DD will not be going back to school on 6th March. School agree that it just wouldn’t be fair – this thread is not about the reasons for that or bashing the school, I accept their decision and while not happy with it it's one of those things.

But I am utterly exhausted. DD is 6, year 2. I’m a single parent, my rest is 2 hours Every Other Saturday when DD goes to her dads. That’s it.

I have friends with similar aged DC but DD won’t stay with anyone, she screams and cries until she makes herself sick and it’s just distressing for everyone. She follows me everywhere, if I close the bathroom door to pee in peace she stands outside it chattering away to me. She won’t stay in her bed, I return her as many as 200 times a night, she’s not getting better with it, she’s not upset, she just comes out to talk to me. It’s easier for us both if she drops off on the sofa and I put her in bed once she’s asleep, even then I tend to wake up with her in my bed.

I just need headspace. I was so looking forward to her going back to school and it just won’t be happening. I have to hope for after Easter now. I was looking forward to working on her anxiety and getting her used to her own bed again.

5 more weeks fingers crossed, I don’t know what I’ll do if she can’t return at Easter.

This is just a rant.

Me too I’m a single mum my two year old is napping I’m still in my Pjamas laying in bed ,I’m soooo tired just need a break.

I know you said this isn’t about the school, but on what basis are they refusing to have her back? Can you challenge that decision? They have a duty of care which they are required to fulfil, they can’t just decide not to have her in.

If she is literally getting out of bed every 3 minutes, which presumably she is, if you’re returning her to bed 200 times per night, it might be easier just to accept her sleeping in your bed for a while. If she will sleep in with you then at least you get some rest. You can tackle the issue of returning her to her own bed at a later date when things aren’t so hard.

Is she under treatment for her anxiety? Have you spoken to your GP? I would push for a CAMHS referral.

@AnnaPotter

I know you said this isn’t about the school, but on what basis are they refusing to have her back? Can you challenge that decision? They have a duty of care which they are required to fulfil, they can’t just decide not to have her in.

If she is literally getting out of bed every 3 minutes, which presumably she is, if you’re returning her to bed 200 times per night, it might be easier just to accept her sleeping in your bed for a while. If she will sleep in with you then at least you get some rest. You can tackle the issue of returning her to her own bed at a later date when things aren’t so hard.

Is she under treatment for her anxiety? Have you spoken to your GP? I would push for a CAMHS referral.

She has some additional needs and we're going through the EHCP process for 1-1, the person who provides the 1-1 has left temporarily and won't be back until the earliest Easter, DDs not violent but she needs help with personal care so it'd be unnhygienic and unfair to DD to have nobody to provide that.