Aibu to expect a thankyou?

[Swordfish1]

I cook dinner most nights. To be fair dp cooks very occasionally and the older dc do cook one night each every 2 weeks.
But I’ve noticed dp only ever says thankyou if I’ve cooked something he really likes.

Take tonight. I tried a new recipe. It was ok, not the best but it was fine. It still took over an hour to cook after a full days work and I just feel pissed off that there was no thankyou for dinner.

Whenever anyone cooks anything for me, whether I like it or not, I’ll always say thankyou. Because they took the effort to do it. I wouldn’t only say thankyou if I really liked it.

Every single time dp cooks I say thankyou. It costs nothing, takes 2 seconds and makes the person who has spent time doing it feel appreciated. Surely that’s common decency?

I know I should just say something but I’m so sick of bringing up all these little things. Every single person in my house for example, in the morning will walk past a closed curtain and not open it. Or at night, not close it. I get these are little things but they are really starting to annoy me.

And tonight, dp wasn’t ‘that keen’ on the dinner. Fair enough. But surely a thankyou for cooking it for me wouldn’t go amiss.
Aibu?

We both work full time. The dc are mine not his do I have all the stuff that goes with them. I finish work and immediately am straight into home stuff. Dp finishes work and needs ‘down time’

Am I alone in this? I mean, just a thankyou. Surely not that bloody hard to say?

@GhostPenguin

I'm going to go against the grain here, my DH does all the cooking. He likes it and he's better at it than me. I don't say thank you every night. I do every now and again when we've been busy or it was a particularly hard meal to make. I feel like it would be robotic and meaningless otherwise. Similarly, he doesn't always say thank you when I clean the bathroom, put the washing away or empty the cat litter tray. We share household tasks of which cooking is one. Plus the occasional thank you means more to me because I feel like the feeling behind it is genuine.

This is what I was thinking. Cooking is one of numerous household tasks, we don’t robotically thank each other many times a day for every task that is carried out.

@shouting.... and getting upset is exhausting and isn't for everyone.

Often it's the shouter who feels very upset and its water off a ducks back for your average teen😁.

PA is decried but has value when parenting teens I believe.

One of my children constantly kept us waiting in the car for him in the mornings.
3 of us in the cars waiting for Mr. Important to join us.
Stress, annoyance at 7 bloody 30 in the morning.
One morning I drove away as my gut was developing an ulcer from the stress.

He couldn't believe it. Neither could my other 3.
Next morning I didn't wait, I just pulled out immediately and was gone.
No annoyance, great stress relief, again children a bit stunned.
He got the bus, he wasn't late, but being dropped in is definitely more comfortable.
3rd morning he was in the car.

All good for about a month, he did it again, I was gone, now he knows, I'll drive away.

Successful parenting IMO is helped by being creative, listening to those who have gone before you😁, and about being prepared to hold the line and be as sneaky and PA as is necessary.
It's about survival of the fittest.👍

I expect a thank you even for a mediocre meal. I always thank him for one and he thanks me. It’s not too much to ask nor is it robotic. It shows appreciation. My ex always thanked me for food as we were bringing the dc up so they did too. I thinks it’s important.