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To eat my 12 month old DD's Christmas chocolate??

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RainbowWorrier123 · 24/02/2021 19:17

Light hearted, I know this is a bit silly Grin

DD has just turned 1. For Christmas she was given a pack of Dairy Milk chocolate bars - the ones that are standard sized but half-thickness, if you know what I mean. She has had the odd treat before, mainly a couple of chocolate buttons after her vaccinations, a little bit of birthday cake etc. But I can't imagine just giving her a chocolate bar (or even half of it) just randomly, at a year old?? I just noticed that the date on it is May. Shall I eat it or would that be terrible of me!?

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Annabell80 · 25/02/2021 12:51

For some reason MIL gave my 6 month old chocolate for Christmas. It was eaten by New Year but not by him.

PerspicaciousGreen · 25/02/2021 13:01

Last weekend, we all sat round the table with our one year old scoffing her birthday cake and didn't give her any. We have her a rice cake and a spoon and she had a grand old time. No idea about the cake.

I don't give sweets, chocolate or cake until they're old enough to realise they're missing out and ask for it. Even then our nearly three year old gets the smallest slice I can cut without it disintegrating into crumbs. He hasn't yet realised anything is up with that as Daddy and I eat our massive wodges right next to him! I just think, it's going to come at some point but why create problems for yourself by creating a want in them they don't know they could have? It's not like it's good for them, it's just a treat, and it's much less hassle for me to not have them asking for it and me saying no all the time.

If you'll excuse me, it's nap time now and I have some lemon tart waiting for me...

RootyT00t · 25/02/2021 18:13

@PerspicaciousGreen

Last weekend, we all sat round the table with our one year old scoffing her birthday cake and didn't give her any. We have her a rice cake and a spoon and she had a grand old time. No idea about the cake.

I don't give sweets, chocolate or cake until they're old enough to realise they're missing out and ask for it. Even then our nearly three year old gets the smallest slice I can cut without it disintegrating into crumbs. He hasn't yet realised anything is up with that as Daddy and I eat our massive wodges right next to him! I just think, it's going to come at some point but why create problems for yourself by creating a want in them they don't know they could have? It's not like it's good for them, it's just a treat, and it's much less hassle for me to not have them asking for it and me saying no all the time.

If you'll excuse me, it's nap time now and I have some lemon tart waiting for me...

So you sit in front of your child on their birthday and eat their birthday cake while they don't have it?
YellowMugPuffin · 25/02/2021 18:16

I still eat my 6 year olds chocolate occasionally, she still hasn't worked out where it goes...Grin

Higgeldypiggeldy35 · 25/02/2021 18:26

My two year old got numerous selection boxes and chocolate from family. He's seen one piece. He went mental for like 4 hours. No more sweets for him!! We ate it all and the most he has is a digestive biscuit once a day. He's a monster on sugar.

00100001 · 25/02/2021 18:38

@PerspicaciousGreen

Last weekend, we all sat round the table with our one year old scoffing her birthday cake and didn't give her any. We have her a rice cake and a spoon and she had a grand old time. No idea about the cake.

I don't give sweets, chocolate or cake until they're old enough to realise they're missing out and ask for it. Even then our nearly three year old gets the smallest slice I can cut without it disintegrating into crumbs. He hasn't yet realised anything is up with that as Daddy and I eat our massive wodges right next to him! I just think, it's going to come at some point but why create problems for yourself by creating a want in them they don't know they could have? It's not like it's good for them, it's just a treat, and it's much less hassle for me to not have them asking for it and me saying no all the time.

If you'll excuse me, it's nap time now and I have some lemon tart waiting for me...

They could have had a bit of cake, even if you didn't want them to have a whole slice.
ElizaLaLa · 25/02/2021 18:42

I was going to say eat it, Easter is coming up, but I see this a stupid pearl clutchy Won't someone please save the children posts.

So you are being very unreasonable.

And yes, you are silly 🙄

ErrolTheDragon · 25/02/2021 18:43

Any chocolate ostensibly given to a baby is obviously meant for the mother. Happy mother, happy baby, makes perfect sense.Grin

altiara · 25/02/2021 18:48

I wouldn’t give a 12 month old chocolate, there are many many years in the future that they will eat chocolate, so I’d be holding that off as long as possible. And if you feel bad, just say you’ll get them some choc buttons rather than a choc bar.

PerspicaciousGreen · 25/02/2021 18:52

@RootyT00t @00100001 Yup. Me, DH and nearly 3yo sat and ate 1yo's birthday cake right in front of her and she didn't get any. We wouldn't have done one at all if nearly 3yo hadn't been so enthusiastic about celebrating 1yo's birthday.

We're not going to be doing it when she's ten! Don't worry! And rest assured, 1yo didn't have a clue that she was missing out on anything. (She still often gets slightly different/different-looking food to the rest of us, as she's a bit lacking in the teeth department!)

I know some people think I'm a bit mean, but I just don't think sweets etc are a necessary part of life. Yes, they are a treat for them, but I'd rather put off the ingestion of sugar as long as is reasonable. So nearly 3yo gets the odd small slice of cake, the odd biscuit, the odd bit of honey on his toast, etc. He'd be upset if he didn't as he'd know he was missing out on something nice we were having - and that really would be mean. 1yo hasn't got a clue, so I see no reason to offer sugary things on purpose as no one can pretend they're actually good for you! Really, what's the point of giving her a bit of cake? To make her happy? She was happy anyway.

RootyT00t · 25/02/2021 18:54

[quote PerspicaciousGreen]**@RootyT00t* @00100001* Yup. Me, DH and nearly 3yo sat and ate 1yo's birthday cake right in front of her and she didn't get any. We wouldn't have done one at all if nearly 3yo hadn't been so enthusiastic about celebrating 1yo's birthday.

We're not going to be doing it when she's ten! Don't worry! And rest assured, 1yo didn't have a clue that she was missing out on anything. (She still often gets slightly different/different-looking food to the rest of us, as she's a bit lacking in the teeth department!)

I know some people think I'm a bit mean, but I just don't think sweets etc are a necessary part of life. Yes, they are a treat for them, but I'd rather put off the ingestion of sugar as long as is reasonable. So nearly 3yo gets the odd small slice of cake, the odd biscuit, the odd bit of honey on his toast, etc. He'd be upset if he didn't as he'd know he was missing out on something nice we were having - and that really would be mean. 1yo hasn't got a clue, so I see no reason to offer sugary things on purpose as no one can pretend they're actually good for you! Really, what's the point of giving her a bit of cake? To make her happy? She was happy anyway.[/quote]
Because whether or not you think she understands, do you not think it's odd the three of you all sat around eating her cake?

No wonder 3 year old was buzzing to eat her sisters cake, but going forward, I'm not sure that sets a good precedence!

ClarkeGriffin · 25/02/2021 19:03

Eat them, she'll never know. Grin

PicardsFlute · 25/02/2021 19:31

Eat it! Consider it your annual parenting bonus 😁 (Although if you do it every year they may start to notice...)

PerspicaciousGreen · 25/02/2021 19:31

@RootyT00t I'm just not sure what you're imagining! I baked a cake, we cut slices, we ate it. It was a totally normal family meal. We didn't nick it off her plate! Nearly 3yo ate his slice of the cake, he wasn't "buzzing" to eat his sister's. He was most excited about "helping" her to blow out the candles!

And yeah, it retains the precedent we have set that "the rules are different for babies". 1yo doesn't get to do all sorts of things that nearly 3yo gets to do, from walking down the stairs to playing with the magnetic letters. Don't all families do things differently for children of different ages? I mean, she'll be allowed to watch 18 rated films one day but that's no reason to start her on them now!

pigsDOfly · 25/02/2021 19:47

No one year old baby needs chocolate. Mothers on the other hand...

VestaTilley · 25/02/2021 19:53

YANBU. My DS is 22 months and hasn’t been given chocolate yet. I’ve got him a small milky buttons egg for Easter as it’ll feel mean if I don’t, but you would not be unreasonable to eat her chocolate in these circumstances!

VestaTilley · 25/02/2021 20:03

Not sure I agree with the PP who didn’t give her child a bit of their own birthday cake. Our DS would definitely have noticed at that age that he wasn’t offered any- it’s mean. Give them a sliver on their high chair and they can ignore it if needs be (DS does, he doesn’t like cake) but we always offer - in this house we all eat the same.

Mylittlesandwich · 25/02/2021 20:15

DS didn't have chocolate before 1. He had some birthday cake. We made a banana loaf without added sugar which was lovely and we all enjoyed it. He has the odd bit of chocolate here and there now at 15 months. It isn't the devil. He by no means has it every day. He had a piece of chocolate cake at nursery today! From the amount in the clothes I put in to wash I'd say he thoroughly enjoyed it.

OP eat the chocolate but don't be afraid of giving her just a little bit.

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 25/02/2021 20:20

Just eat it. She's too young to eat so much junk.

Carouselfish · 25/02/2021 23:54

I ate half my dds chocolate santa. She is 5. It was from the 'actual' santa who came to their school.
I confessed in the morning. Felt very guilty. She let me off with a withering look.

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