To be pissed that Covid has ruined my sex life!

[HoneyIShrunkMyAss]

I WFH part time (prior to Covid) and DH works different days each week. Usually he has a day or two off in the week which is when we would have rampant sex as DC are all at school/work. We’ve been together a very long time and our sex life was pretty shit while the DC were younger but we’d just got back into it really well the year or two before lockdown started.

Our house is very ‘creaky’, walls are thin and DC are normally up after us so nightimes are out unless we do it REALLY quietly and try not to move too much on the bed, which rather takes the fun out of it.

Anyho, oldest DC has been WFH since last March and is ALWAYS at home during school hours so even when the others went back to school/college, she was still here. I’ve tried suggesting she goes for a long walk in her lunch hour but she won’t get the bloody hint.

I was banking on her going back to her office by May as that was what she was told. She’s just said the earliest she’ll be back is September!

AIBU to cry!

Book a £29 Premier Inn room!

Yep once hotels open leave her to babysit and head away for a hotel nookie night.

Set the alarm for very early in the morning when dc are likely to be sound asleep? Not ideal but needs must! Or if you have a TV in your room you can have 'an early night to watch a movie' and turn it up loud!

Just do it. Frankly as an adult she’s got to understand you guys have sex. Put the tv on louder than normal still be as quiet as possible but if she hears bed springs then so be it sure she wouldn’t be giving this much thought to you guys hearing her springs.

Stop hinting and tell her you need privacy.

Definitely book a hotel room!! Worth it!
Or have a clearer conversation with your child saying you and her dad would like to have the house to yourselves once in a while :)

Aah OP I expect you are not alone. I imagine this has been a problem for lots of couples with older kids. You'll have to get a hotel.... I'm not sure but I think you'll have to wait until 17th May though 😬

There are ways around it, and Hinting at your daughter to go out at lunchtime so you can shag her dad is grim 😬
Drag the duvet on to the floor in the evening and go nuts - a lot of couples have to have sex around the routine of kids!

Hotel. I always find its much better anyway when you're away from the house and the temptation to just sort the laundry or defrost the dinner or whatever. I find it hard to switch all that off when I'm at home. When dp and I go to a hotel we are much more..ardent

And if the kids are up after you in the evening then they are old enough to know you guys have sex... it's not ideal but you don't have to be that quiet.

Stop hinting and tell her you need privacy.

Exactly. Your daughter is an adult, not a child. Tell her you and her father need private time so she will need to find somewhere to go for a bit.

Have you got an easy hotel near you?
25 ish for a room
Some hotels you can book for an hour

However essential the OP thinks her sex life is, I don't think hotels are currently open for that reason, either by the hour or overnight.

Uh oh, my friend has been working from home and living with her parents for months, and has just been told she won't be back in the office for ages. She never goes for walks. Hello Mum!

Stop worrying about what the kids think! An adult child really shouldn't care what you are doing, failing that send her to the shops for "urgent" supplies!

@Aquamarine1029

Stop hinting and tell her you need privacy.

Exactly. Your daughter is an adult, not a child. Tell her you and her father need private time so she will need to find somewhere to go for a bit.

eeeesh don't do this. I know it's natural but no-one wants to talk to their parents about this.

Either have sex in the morning before they're up, in the shower, against a wall or on the duvet on the floor etc. There are ways round this!

She's an adult so surely she's not immature enough to even care. She's not going to walk in like a kid would and she's probably had sex so isn't going to go on about it being gross.

Dont scream your head off or shag on the kitchen counter while she's making her lunch but I really think it's ok to have sex with your adult daughter in the house.

She might start going for walks then too.

I would have no hesitation in being quite frank about why I needed her to go out for an hour!

"You need to go out so I can shag your dad in peace".

Nowt to be ashamed of and she should respect the fact two adults need some alone time.

@Aquamarine1029

Stop hinting and tell her you need privacy.

Exactly. Your daughter is an adult, not a child. Tell her you and her father need private time so she will need to find somewhere to go for a bit.

Agreed. Everyone needs privacy.

Same here

Dh really isn’t keen at the moment....i think he’s put the children going back to college and ‘uni’ in his diary 🤔

Same here, but mine are teenagers. I must get a lock for the bedroom door, but it would still be off putting with DC still up and about.

Covid has stolen my sex life, too. My partner has just gone off sex as he's lost his enthusiasm for life generally. Hoping Covid fucks off soon so we can all get some joy back!

In the meantime OP, there are things you can do with each other (sexually) that don’t involve hammering the bed springs.

Ugh I feel your pain op! Thankfully I don't live with my dp so I escape to his once a week!!!

Same here, mine are younger it's like been stuck in zombie land.
DS rarely sleeps and DD lives like a ghost she pops up anywhere at anytime.
I'm tired too, not feeling very sexy.
If they were older I'd lock the bedroom door with a key.