To think people under weight arent lucky?

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I'm severely under weight to the point I have weigh in sessions with my GP every few weeks as I cannot gain weight or keep weight on. It's extremely tiresome and I hate seeing bones sticking out and looking like I'm anorexic.
I'm constantly being told I'm lucky, and that friends wish they looked like me as they are over weight.

AIBU to think just because I'm "skinny" doesn't mean I'm lucky?! And that people who are under weight are allowed to moan just like those whom are over weight?!

YANBU. I'm back at a decent BMI now but lost a lot of weight through illness and it's taken me over a year to put it back. There's nothing lucky about freezing your wotsits off when everyone else is in shorts, flaky skin, not being able to lie in bed with your legs together and there's nothing lucky about the way people feel the need to tell you that you are Too Thin. People who would never tell another they were too fat.

@ViciousJackdaw oh but they do! ALL the time.

Yanbu , my brother is naturally very thin and struggles to gain weight. He eats well as he'd love to be bigger and gets annoyed when people constantly call him skinny.

Being severely underweight causes many many health problems. No you are not lucky.

I’m not sure they mean it how you’re taking it. I just think that they’re envious of the fact they’d love to be a position to eat all of the food that keeps them fat, without feeling guilty about it. Infact, they’d be doing themselves a service. They’re not thinking about the impact it has on you negatively.

It’s the age old wanting what someone else has got without thinking it through.

Yanbu I am a bit overweight. In my youth I was actually underweight, I do miss those days but it's not a healthy attitude to have twords weight.

I stayed with a friend who couldn’t gain weight. I was on 1000 calories a day diet. She was eating bars of chocolate. It did look more fun but I’m sure it wasn’t.

I understand. My nickname at school was ‘Annie the Anorexic’. I have filled out a little over the years but I remain just slightly under my lowest recommended BMI. I’ve had all sorts of comments even from family members. Things like ‘there’s more fat on a chip’ or ‘you’re like hugging a bag of bones’ and after my daughter was born someone in my family said ‘if you get any skinnier you should be hospitalised’. In a supermarket a girl said to her Mum when looking at me that ‘I want to be like her when I’m older’ to which the Mum replied ‘no you don’t because she’s anorexic’ or ‘it’s windy outside so we need to add some bags of sugar to MellowMelly otherwise she’ll blow away’. Some comments from some men have been particularly vile. I could go on but I won’t.

The result of all these years of comments have made me cover up myself instead. My self esteem has been very low.

Don’t get me wrong, I get the comments like ‘I wish I could eat like you do’. That’s okay I understand those comments and I don’t take any offence to these.

What’s changed things for me is understanding my body. One doctor looked at me and the first thing she asked was ‘do you eat’? I do eat!
The next doctor was actually a whole lot more helpful and sat with me and said ‘this is you, this is what your body needs and this is how to keep weight on or gain weight’. I now follow a helpful diet that is aimed at people with an ‘Ectomorph’ body type like me. I also understand it’s in my genes. My grandmother was very slim too. I have stuck to this ‘diet’ and it’s really helped as over the last year I’ve put weight on.

Are you underweight because you don’t eat enough or have food issues OP?
I must admit to envying skinny people, however I find it hard to believe when people say they “eat loads” and are still skinny. It just physically can’t be true surely?

[quote Jengnr]@ViciousJackdaw oh but they do! ALL the time.[/quote]
I'm sorry about that. People really have no tact do they? Take the wind out of their sails. Next time someone says it, ask 'too fat/thin for what exactly?'.

"People who would never tell another they were too fat."

Seriously?

Very overweight or underweight, you both get converge, they can both affect your health. But I think most people find the foods to 'solve' being overweight more pleasant, than a restrictive diet to lose weight.

I started a thread just like this a few years ago under a different name and got absolutely slated, so I hope this thread doesn't go the same way.

For what it's worth, I completely get where you're coming from OP. I was at risk of having life-changing surgery cancelled because I was underweight - remind me how that's "lucky" again...?

YANBU. I got a lot of comments when I was anorexic too - mostly from a place of concern - but it was incredibly unhelpful and rude in my opinion. A very thin person knows they're very thin, just as a very fat person knows they're very fat. Unless you're a very close relative or friend with genuine concerns about health, you shouldn't ever comment on some else's weight.