To not want to go on a hen at 6/7 months pregnant?

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Friend has been very excited by lifting lockdown announcement and hen do plans announced.
As it will be before 21st June they and bridesmaids decided on camping so they can maximise guests outdoors.
I will be 6/7 months pregnant.
I wish the bride well and hope she has fun. Whilst I have had camping holidays before I am far from a seasoned camper and as this is my first pregnancy have no idea how I will be then. I think it could be a struggle to put my tent up, and an uncomfortable two nights for me. The place is three hours away and there’s no alternative accommodation.
No one knows I’m pregnant yet, going to tell them soon.
I just am expecting a negative reaction from the bride - maybe that’s unfair of me - but as she is the last of the group to get married she is definitely very high on finally having her turn.

My friend did attend my hen, and I really want to do the same for her. I don’t want to ruin her fun by us all playing the family card. At the same time though I don’t want to go if I’m just going to be miserable and drag the mood down.

AIBU to not go?

Of course it's not unreasonable to not go, for any reason whatsoever. It's an invite, not a summons. Wish them all a lovely time and stay home.

Of course YANBU

But I do think you're probably overthinking it and I really doubt it'll bother her, as she'll still have fun and it's understandable that it'll be uncomfortable for you.

Camping while 6/7 months pregnant with a group of drunk friends in a field which will no doubt be heaving with people who've been loced down for months....

No thank you.

I'd just fob them off at the moment "you just go ahead and I'll add on nearer the time as I've a feeling holidays may not go ahead"

Then when the time comes to announce the pregnancy you can say that's why you hung on as obviously you can't be sleeping on an air mattress in a field full of piss heads at 7 months.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Camping while 6/7 months pregnant with a group of drunk friends in a field which will no doubt be heaving with people who've been loced down for months....

No thank you.

I'd just fob them off at the moment "you just go ahead and I'll add on nearer the time as I've a feeling holidays may not go ahead"

Then when the time comes to announce the pregnancy you can say that's why you hung on as obviously you can't be sleeping on an air mattress in a field full of piss heads at 7 months.

This!

Just say you can't commit right now to a camping hen as you're not sure how you'll be, but whatever about even going to hotel, sleeping in a tent is not what you want at 6/7 month pregnant!

I couldn't go to a friends hen as I was pretty much 9 months and my midwife told me I shouldn't be going anywhere 30 mins from the hospital, so instead I brought her for a nice lunch and a few drinks in a lovely restaurant and we had a nice time. Meant I was able to celebrate with her and she got an extra celebration.

The bride might be annoyed but just stick to your guns ans be positive and maybe suggest bringing her for lunch or afternoon tea instead if you'd like to do that?

YANBU to not go camping while 6mo pregnant but she may very well be disappointed and even upset.

That's just life, and you can't fix everyone's disappointments.

If you wanted to try and make up for it, maybe you can suggest a special time out with the bride as a separate celebration, eg a high tea or a pampering session.

Nah, I camped at about 4 months, and it was doable but I'm a fairly seasoned camper, and I specifically didn't go any later. Even with an airbed, it isn't great cushioning for bump

Jesus Christ no. DH and I went in a mini break when I was 6/7 months and I remember the agony of sleeping in an unfamiliar bed with awful trapped nerves/sciatica in my hips. You wouldn't have got me in a tent for a million quid

Camping is a fucking nightmare anyway! I wouldn't go, pregnant or not.

I think you’ve got a good excuse! Camping at 6/7 months pregnant wouldn’t be many peoples idea of fun.
Shame a 6 hour round trip is also a bit far to go just for a few hours in the day.