To be hurt/annoyed if DP says they do something and then they don't?

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For example, in the past DP has said "I'll decorate xyz" or "I'll mend that for you.." or suggests a trip away, home improvement, doing something that benefits me and then DOESN'T do anymore about it.

AIBU to be either hurt and/or annoyed by this? Or is it normal for people to over promise or under deliver?

My ex-H was very similar and it drove me insane. I've realised DP is the same.

Is it me or is it them?

It's them. I'd be annoyed. And often am. Particularly when they then get the arse if you crack on and do it yourself.

"I told you I'd do that!"

Yes, yes you did. But I've been waiting for 2 years now so...

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It's them. I'd be annoyed. And often am. Particularly when they then get the arse if you crack on and do it yourself.

"I told you I'd do that!"

Yes, yes you did. But I've been waiting for 2 years now so...

Yes! Exactly this! Or you get a decorator in and then they really moan.

It's the things they SAY they'll do for me and then don't bother that hurts. It's as though it's said to be nice in the moment and then just not bothered about. TBH I'd rather have been not promised anything than promised something that doesn't materialise.

But maybe everyone does this?

Some ppl are like that. My SIL promises all sorts and never delivers. For her once it's 'said' it's almost as if it's 'done' in effect.
Talk to your DH though as it would drive me mental in your shoes. Maybe agree to put a list down of things he promises and timescale etc.

My DB does this. He’s always really busy, booked up with friends most weekends and lives a couple of hours away. He’ll text me - “let’s meet up for lunch, just the two of us, haven’t seen you for ages!” “Yes sure, I’m free whenever - let me know when it suits and I’ll make sure I’m free” ...tumbleweed. Every time. So annoying.

My dad has refused entry to people that my mum got to do work. But still won't do it. She's older and does not enjoy the revelation that is No More Nails so has spent 13 years without a 2 ft length of skirting.

I have learned just to crack on (the irony being that OH is a builder and would actually get paid for his work as it's my house and I don't think it's fair he work for free)

We have a rule of 3 in my house! If I've asked 3 times and it's still not done, I'm allowed to take matters into my own hands!
It's worth a conversation. My dh didn't realise how much he did it and how annoying it was and even hurtful. Mine is a builder too and its often stuff like that but could also be other stuff.