To want consistency with baby!!

[Peppery123]

My 18 week old sleep hasnt always been very good at sleeping I never understood when I would read stuff online about the 4 month regression stating and how it would be shocking as your baby has slept well and suddenly starts waking up.
Tbf, dd has woken up every single night anyway. But she has 'good' nights and bad.
And this is whats getting me.
Every night is different. This has been ongoing since 3 months
For example Thursday and Friday she woke up 9pm, 2am, 5am . This varies so after going down at 7pm it can sometimes be 10pm instead of 9pm or 1am instead of 2am. Takes ages to settle and doesnt wanna go back to sleep
But then the next night she will wake 9-10pm, then 3am and then up T 7.30am for the morning which is better
But this happening all the time. I just dont get it as when I ask other mums they always say yeh she wakes this and this time every night
Whereas with mine its all over the place
And we're doing the exact same routine, exactly the same things i.e white noise, grobag etc even the same things in the day almost groundhog day!! What does it mean? Should I be worried that shes not in a proper routine?
T.I.A

Yes YABU that is a tiny baby. Roll with it.

She's tiny baby. Some babies sleep better than others. You have to give the consistency in your approach and they will gradually fall into a routine.

First,never compare your baby to other ones,they are all diffrent.
Second,stop listening to other mums bragging about their babies with perfect routines,it's non-existent,trust me.There may be an odd baby that is kind of sleeping better from time to time but it's as rare as Boris's good haircut.
I have 4&7 year old and can honestly say that until they were about 12 months old,we never had 12 hours straight of the proper sleep.
It's frustrating,but they are babies,they have no clue what the day/night means and the learning process may be longer for some babies.Be kind to yourself and the little one,it will pass.
I did co-sleep with mine and it did help us to have a few decent hours of sleep,maybe not full night but I think it helped them to feel cosy and secure thus better sleep.
I'm still sleep deprived,unfortunately kids never do what you wanr them to do

Sorry I might have come across as annoyed about the sleep but what Inwas getting at what just the consistency of feed times.
Like I remember with my first and second there would always be a 3am and 5am wake up to feed for milk.
The wake ups dont bother me....well they do of course Id be lying if I said I would just love at least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep but what I was asking was with this dd she is doing different times each night...I dunno if its because it might be something else waking her and then she only settles with milk.
I would just prefer it to be tje same everynight IYSWIM. Instead of lets see how many wake ups tonihht. Shes bottle fed so I need to prepare the feeds and on the nights where she wakes up 3-4 times im running back n fourth with bottles and formula etc

Get a nanny, I did.

My 16 month old has only slept through the night twice. He still wakes up for milk now, and it could be anytime from 9.30pm to 5am, could be once, or possibly twice/ he's also teething at the moment so he was up half a dozen times last night. I'm shattered, but it is what it is.

Regarding getting the bottles ready, the best thing you could do is buy a perfect prep machine to keep upstairs. Then just take the sterilised bottles and pre-measured pots of formula up to bed with you and you can make the bottle in a matter of seconds when your DC wakes up. Much easier than going downstairs.

@Pyewackect
A night nanny? Arent they expensive?

This sounds totally normal for the age. Just because you were lucky enough to have 2 good sleepers, doesn't mean the third will be the same!

In a couple of months if she's still doing it I would try cutting the number of night feeds but at 18 weeks it's normal to sometimes want more in the night. Just keep it all really dark and quiet

I found this one of the most frustrating things about having a baby. The asking myself 'why?'! I had a bad sleeper and she would have a randomly good night and I would be looking back and trying to work out what I'd done differently, googling to see if the internet knew and then trying to replicate exactly what we had done that day in terms of food etc to see it it worked again (it never did!).

Don't get a nanny.

Just roll with it. My daughter is 22 weeks, some nights wakes once, some twice, some more. There's a reason. They're only tiny.

Don't pay attention to other people, either. Every child is different.

Don’t worry. She’s only three months old. Haven’t you realised yet that a lot of parents Bragg and boast about ABSOLUTE LIES!?! She’s a baby. She doesn’t know what a routine is. Stop worrying.

I have a 15 month old and we still have this variation, I'd not really thought of it as a problem as such as I wake up at different times too for the toilet.

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken
This is me! Exactly what youve said
Did it get better with time or did that give indication to how they generally sleep?
I have been lucky with my first two and they slept from 1-3 months all onwards only occasionally bad when teething or ill but that was always not very long so now her being 4 months in just thinking this is how it is..not gonna get worse or better

Your baby isnt the same as someone else's baby, so try not to compare! That is the root of problems. When we compare, we begin to feel that someone else is doing better, we then beat ourselves up and try an do what the other person is doing. So, please dont compare. It isnt helpful nor beneficial.
I have 4 boys, all different sleeping patterns when babies. My youngest just doesn't like to sleep. Although some nights he sleeps ALLL night, some nights he will waken at different times on different nights. Our babies are unique, an your baby sounds like they want to be around you at night. I should add my youngest is almost 3. I can't remember the last time I had a full nights sleep because on the nights he sleeps through, I still waken. 🙄