Me & DH are totally food incompatible

[hellokittykatbiscuit]

I like spicy or tomato based stuff like Bolognese, curry, chilli I love pasta and noodles. I'm not that keen on potatoes, other than sweet potatoes.----

DH likes traditional stuff like casserole, Shepherds pie and anything with gravy. He loves potatoes, particularly roast potatoes.

Can this work out or are we totally incompatible?

We each feel so unenthusiastic about each other favourite meals we've actually been together forever, but lockdown seems to have highlighted the food divide.

Me and my long term ex were totally incompatible food wise. I’m vegan and love hot hot food. He would live off salmon/chicken and rice. That would bore me to tears. We had a few pasta/fried rice dishes we enjoyed together but generally just made our own thing
Food was not the reason we broke up haha.

I am a non spicy veggie with ibs leading to limited food choices, dh is the opposite, we just stick to our own plates and all is good, in the week I make my food, dh cooks for himself and ds, on the weekend he cooks main meals and does me something different.

Ps 18 years together so far so good.

I'm a vegetarian and my DH is 100% carnivore (he claims to be allergic to vegetables 😳🤣). We've been married almost 14 years. We just eat different things. Utensils and pots and pans and things are separate. Our food shopping bill is ridiculous though! 🤣🤣🤣

We're the same as you op! I also, unfortunately, don't like his cooking. I end up skipping dinner quite a lot!

I feel your pain. I eat mainly vegetarian meals with the occasional fish . No meat at all. DH hates fish and thinks a meal is not a meal without a meat element. Our food bill is massive as we are always effectively cooking two meals every night or we end up eating the same meal for lots of consecutive days as we each have so much leftover

Ha ha, us too. I'm spicy veggie, he is meat and 2 veg. I cook so he compromises.

Compromise - cook a bit of both

I’m coeliac and DH and DS are not. We have separate everything, including toasters. DS(4) is a spice fiend and likes strong flavours, DH prefers more comfort food. I tend to make a big batch of spicy tomato, chilli and garlic sauce and freeze it and DS and mix that into bolognese etc to pep it up, and I add sauces on proteins that DH has plain, or I’ll marinate 2 chicken breasts and not the 3rd for DH.

Same here. My DH also seems to start disliking stuff I like. He’s vegetarian and yet now doesn’t like mushrooms or courgette.

I’m pretty sure he developed a love of white chocolate just because I don’t like it. Actually I don’t blame him for that one; at least he knows his stash is safe.

Any neutral territory be you? Can you bond over pizza, or risotto or a salad?

You can have a perfectly successful relationship and each cook and eat your own meals. Maybe try for something you both like once a week or for special occasions, but it doesn’t need to be a big deal every day.

I think batch cooking is your friend here. So not wasting a whole day cooking but if you happen to make a meat sauce. Make double. Turn one into a mince and onion gravy dish and the other into bolognese and freeze. Then if you make a curry one night just cook a plain chicken breast under the grill and serve with baby potatoes and peas.

Me and my DP are like this. It doesn't bother us really. I do the cooking so I just cook him and the children the same and me different.

We're similar - he's all spice and would exist mainly off ramen and sushi and rice and curries, hates pasta and Italian/Mediterranean style dishes with tomatoey sauces.

My limit for spice is black pepper (😂) and I prefer potatoes and root veg and salad, and lots of tomato sauce based things like pasta bake or Bolognese etc (-and beige kid food-).

We compromise with each other a lot, or he'll do me a less spicy portion of what he's eating. We both just have to be willing to eat stuff that's not our favourite some of the time and we have about 6/7 dishes we both love so they're in heavy rotation. Plus we have a rule that we always get the restaurant of your choice on your birthday 😂

I struggle with this i have always worked with food and so tend to try new stuff at home
Nothing outrageous I just cook nice food
my Husbands idea of tea is beans on toast - we have amazing restaurants all round us he won’t go and if he does he complains about price / ambience/ quality / do we need dessert & wine - it’s painful
He’s not interested in new food or food that takes any time to prepare

Just take turns, surely there’s space in both of your diets for all of your favourite foods.

Suggest to dh that he spends a bit of time on a weekend making up cottage pie/stews etc and freezes them into individual portions. Then he can just pop one in the oven each night and you either do the same with yours or cook fresh while his is cooking. Eat together with a glass of wine, but each have dishes you love.

There's only a handful of things DH and both like. He is vegetarian and I'm not.

He does most of the cooking but cooks me things I like and we often eat different meals. Almost 40yrs and hasn't really been an issue. When I cook he still prefers to do his own. He just likes pottering in the kitchen with very (for me) adventurous ingredients.

My exh basically thought all food was a waste of money. Whereas I love food, and consider it very important.

Same here.

DH has the palate of a fussy 5 year old. He could eat chilli con carne, spaghetti bolognese and burgers on a 3 days rotation for the remainder of his life and be perfectly content. He claims that it is normal to like pasta in the form of spaghetti, but find it repulsive in literally any other shape. He doesn’t think to add fruit or veg to a meal, and I don’t think he’s eaten green veg since about 2016.

I love trying new things and will eat pretty much anything, but some how because I am not keen on bell peppers, that makes me the fussy one

I love the bones of him but it’s actually a real flash point for us!

DH and I do eat many of the same foods, but he doesn't like things to be very spicy, and we each have dishes that we love that are really not a favourite of the other.

For those "eww, not eating that" dishes, we just have completely separate meals. Some of them freeze well or are quick to prepare, which is perfect for individual menus. While I reheat spicy chili from the freezer, he whips up a single serving of something he enjoys.

potatoes food of the gods, I tell you. I could eat a whole plate to myself, I'm drooling now. I like mine extra spice.

My dh and I are similar, he eats from a restricted list of food which has expanded over the years. I have a range of spicy condiments to perk up my dinner.

This thread is scaring me! As in the expense element. I want to move in with my partner at some point.

My favourite meals are Greek tapas or fajitas with tofu or meat sub and veg. I love spicy food and I'm vegan (if it doesnt burn my face off it's bland)!

Partners favourite meal is sausage chips and beans... 'nough said really! Why would differences cause expense?!

@hellokittykatbiscuit

I like spicy or tomato based stuff like Bolognese, curry, chilli I love pasta and noodles. I'm not that keen on potatoes, other than sweet potatoes.----

DH likes traditional stuff like casserole, Shepherds pie and anything with gravy. He loves potatoes, particularly roast potatoes.

Can this work out or are we totally incompatible?

We each feel so unenthusiastic about each other favourite meals we've actually been together forever, but lockdown seems to have highlighted the food divide.

Moroccan shepards pie

Sweet potato and chilli mash for topping (hot but buttery mash makes it nice for non spice lovers)

Harrisa and apricots added into the sauce and it kept lighter