Development Delay

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I have a 4 year old niece, I’m in a childcare bubble with her until she starts school in September.

I have spoken to my sister a few times because I’m worried that she is physically behind other girls her age. For example, she can’t do stairs on her own (I live in a flat), walk much distance or run. She didn’t walk until after she was 2 and help some physio but was signed off when she took her first step.

My sister said she’ll contact her health visitor or GP but hasn’t yet and this has been going on ages. Is there anything else I can do?

Should I just keep out of it?

I think it depends on whether your sister is too lazy or can’t be bothered vs she’s too scared to ask because she knows there is an issue.

Perhaps offer to support her in asking the question and going through any assessments. If you are providing childcare you can also work on areas that she’s behind in if you are able to.

I would also stress the positive in asking for an assessment in that there is lots of time for her to catch up and there is help available. Presumably she will be starting school soon so may need extra assistance there?

Best wishes, it sounds difficult.

I’ve offered for us both to speak with someone but i think she’d rather have her partner there.

I’m not sure why she’s putting it off. She obviously loves her daughter but I don’t understand why she can’t see what I’m seeing. I’ve been through lists of milestones too so she must understand a bit.

It's hard accepting it. Especially when that could open up a can of worms around why there are delays and possible long term implications. Don't underestimate that.

Just make sure she knows early intervention is best, and that waiting lists are loooong even without Covid complications.

You've done the right thing raising your concerns and showing usual milestones...but I think you need to let it drop now else it will cause tensions.

You've planted the seed, give it time.