A driving one..

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How far is too far, to visit a friend?
I have a friend, who wont drive 35 minuts to visit another friend , unless it is for the whole weekend. So no lunch, dinner, coffee, anything. If she cant stay the whole weekend, she is not going.
I Think 35 minuts are fine, so i suspekt something else. Just dont know what. What do you Think? (She has absolutely no driving anxieties)

Alcohol issues?

Yeah, that's weird.

No she hardly drink. And no drugs.

Or just doesn’t like the friend/s that much?

Or... they’re excellent hosts and she loves their spare room to an unhealthy degree?

So why go the whole weekend? I mean if she does not like the friend?
She gladly go the whole weekend. But Way too far just for lunch.

I might Think that too.. she has her kids every other week and is totally alone at home the other week. I Think she is pressuring to stay the weekend. But 35 minuts are not that far to see a friend for the Day.. Right?

I've driven a few hours to see a friend and back in the same day, but that's because I want to. If she doesn't want to drive for just over an hour in a day that's her choice, maybe to her it doesn't feel worth it.

Does she just not like driving?

I hate it and have not really drove anywhere since wfh.

The thought of two 35 minutes drives in a day to spend a couple of hours somewhere, would fill me with dread.

But the consequense is, that the friendship fizzels out.. the other friend has 3 maby 4 weekends a year to do this, but gets pressured to do it more often. She dont know what to say. But she dont want to use a whole weekend every time they see eachother , and she does drive to see friend for lunch . But not the other Way around..

Surely right now it’s not an issue anyway, as lunch or overnight stays are off for a while longer?

Generally if you don’t want someone to stay you don’t have to. But then you can’t compel them to visit you so you might need to visit them or meet in the middle. No point stressing over it, you can’t change other people only your own actions and reactions.

She drive to work, italy, germany, all over. In a huge car. Absolutely no driving issues.
No, i also think she like the "friend hotel". And it is hard to say no. So i thought to ask you all. Because i find it Strange.

She's lonely and enjoys the company.

We Can see people where i am.

My friend has a hard time saying no, as she gets asked "when do you have a weekend, lets make plans" and she dont want a whole weekend every Month or so. And i find it completely weird.

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My friend has a hard time saying no, as she gets asked "when do you have a weekend, lets make plans" and she dont want a whole weekend every Month or so. And i find it completely weird.

I am assuming “your friend” is actually you, OP.

You just say “Can’t do a whole weekend but let’s have lunch on X date. Do you want to come to me or shall we meet at Y?”

If they say “That’s a shame I was hoping to stay over” then you say “Sorry - but I’d love to see you. When is good for lunch?”