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AIBU to be annoyed at family

11 replies

Pinky1952 · 21/02/2021 23:39

My BIL and his wife are in their 50's and he is on a keep fit drive. He runs a couple of miles after work, goes on a bike ride a couple of evenings and Saturdays with some mates - no masks or social distancing. On a Sunday he and his wife go for a long walk well out of their local area sometimes with their daughter, partner and grandchildren. Then they plaster the photos all over Facebook. Her auntie was annoyed with them for doing it but it hasn't stopped them. He talks to my hubby (his half brother) through Whatsapp every day and has told us he's not getting the vaccine because he thinks they are putting microchips in them. When he actually speaks on the phone to hubby he always asks if we wear our masks when we go out. It makes me mad because his daughter works for the NHS and went to work at the Nightingale centre in Manchester when it opened so he's well aware of the Covid situation.
He keeps saying Cant stop, wont stop, no excuses when he posts about his bike rides and runs. We don't respond. My hubby said to me he can do what he wants but don't keep pushing it on other people. We don't want to say what we think because my hubby was adopted and we only found his brother and sisters 3 years ago but it's so annoying.

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CheshireCats · 21/02/2021 23:45

Yabu.

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/02/2021 23:49

You’re not obliged to look at his Facebook. So if it annoys you then stop.

If your husband wants to carry on a relationship with him that’s fine but you don’t have to.

You’re unlikely to see them in person anytime soon so put them from your mind.

It’s not worth the angst and irritation it’s causing you.

GrumpyHoonMain · 21/02/2021 23:50

Why are you wearing your masks outdoors? It’s really unlikely for you to catch it outdoors

BackforGood · 21/02/2021 23:52

What Anne said.

I'm not sure what the going for a run or a bike ride has to do with it.

I'm not sure why you are really giving it headspace - it isn't affecting you.
I'm annoyed that people bend and stretch the rules, but, I can't get hyped up about someone I don't need to mix with going on a walk outside occasionally .

Merryoldgoat · 21/02/2021 23:54

As soon as you said he believes the vaccine has microchips in it I stopped.

He’s an idiot. And actual idiot.

Ignore and carry on with your lives.

SionnachGlic · 21/02/2021 23:57

Just don't read the posts...I can imagine your blood pressure rising, I'd be the same esp if he is being a bit sneery at mask wearing & your compliance with restrictions (it sounds like he is). He can do as he pleases ...not that he should. Just steer clear of him in person until things are safer & restrictions eased...keep your own family safe.

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 22/02/2021 00:04

It’s generally enjoying that people aren’t following the guidelines/law. He’s allowed to exercise as much as he likes although he should only be meeting one other person - more surprised at the daughter who works for the NHS to be meeting in a group. As for not having the vaccine because of microchips, you can’t reason with stupid.

Ignore and hide him from your fb feed. Let your DH decide how to handle it whilst you focus on something else.

Pinky1952 · 22/02/2021 00:10

I know you are all right in your answers. I suppose I was just venting my frustration somewhere other than FB. Thanks all. I will try and let it go over my head.

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Aquamarine1029 · 22/02/2021 02:02

Delete Facebook. You'll be a lot happier.

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/02/2021 09:25

The other thing I’d say OP is that while finding his siblings must have been incredible, all healthy relationships work equally for both parties, so if this friendship with his brother is dependent on your husband biting his tongue while his brother spouts crap or gives you two grief, maybe it’s not worth investing in. It should bring him joy and companionship overall and if it doesn’t because his brother is a numpty then it’s worth reviewing.

I WhatsApp daily with only people who bring happiness to my life. I haven’t got time for extra stress or bullshit.

Lochmorlich · 22/02/2021 09:32

Well his anti vaccine stance would annoy me but outdoor exercise is commendable.

Speaking as someone whose bil decided to tell me on sm what he thought of me I suggest you myob.
It won't go down well.
My bil is permanently blocked.

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