To ask for your romance tips

[OloBo]

My DH had never been the romantic sort, but between that, young kids, busy jobs, some traumatic life stuff, lockdown over the last few years, romance is basically non-existent.

So, rather than making him feel pressured into “being romantic”, I want to put in a bit of effort into injecting a little romance to our lives. It doesn’t need to be grand, just little things you do that help to make it a habit. The trouble is, it feels like it’s been so long, I can’t even remember how anymore. What are you tips for keeping a little romance going?

What do you consider romantic?

For me it can be cuddling while watching a movie, stopping for a kiss in the middle of the day, touching while crossing paths, bringing something they like from the shops even though it was not on the list, going for a walk.

In lockdown our romance is spontaneous foot rubs/massages. Regular cups of tea.
Both being conscious of tidy ness of the house and taking equal part

Bringing home a surprise treat of something we know the other loves.
Ordering something they love that they haven’t had for a long time like a favourite bath soap.

Taking a flask of coffee and going for a walk an talk together.

I think it depends on the individuals and your relationship. I know people can roll their eyes at ‘love languages’ but there’s a lot of truth in it - do you/your husband look to be complimented and spoken lovingly to? Or are gifts more how you share your love? Or acts of service?

I think generally a bit of intimacy like holding hands or cuddling up on the sofa can go along way. Or making a lovely meal and letting the other person put their feet up. Small gifts as a surprise. Suggesting trying out something in bed. But really it depends on how you work as a couple and what you enjoy.