Situation with my ex. Broke up a year ago, stayed friends, both single and been spending lots of time together in lockdown on a bubble.
I Don’t know what I want from him - friends or more - hence why still chatting. He always suggests to come round, him always texting me and I rarely never ask to meet up, as he is suggesting it. Seems more keen to meet up from when we were going out. Was always annoying as he won’t make plans in advance.
We starting getting flirty before Xmas saying we should have lockdown fun. I had a minor operation and couldn’t hook up for a few weeks. But he stayed over quite a few times and we cuddled. We did hook Up 2 weeks ago - have to say it was not in the top 20 of our sext times, but he was more passionate than wild. Continued to be friendly and him suggesting meet ups.
He came round on Valentine’s Day, his suggestion. He stayed over and I made a move. Got rejected as he said he was tired and wanted to sleep. Ok, we slept and he cuddled me all night. He left late on in the afternoon.
He was off work this week and I have not really heard much from him. When at work he would text each morning and keep in touch. Only had a Few texts a day and getting left on unread. He did admit to being depressed this week and sleeping loads. It’s fine as I do t need text to be validated. He has family issues. Never shared his issues when Going out. But is being honest now.
So I have held back. Not chasing or texting. Only replying when he does. Last night he asked if I was about in the afternoon today. I am busy and he was questioning what I was doing etc. With lockdown. I said free in evening and don’t mind coming to you. We live 40 mins drive from each other. His reply was his house is a state and was in my city in the afternoon and didn’t want to drive back in the evening.
I did say don’t mind coming to yours. I don’t need to stay. He then said had a video call with family abroad. Excuses for me not to spend the night. I joked and said I can drive home. He also questioning if I have been dating.
He has texted today asking if I want to come round to his for early dinner on Sunday. It’s early for us to catch up and you won’t be late driving home .
Confused that he has changed his mind and wants to be friends only as avoiding sleep overs. But he is really affectionate, lots of hugs and joking and tickling me etc, except the sex. Like he brings me my favourite treats each time he sees me and flowers on valentines. He paid for food as I was always cooking.
He seems to have friend zoned me, except the affection. I could ask, but I am not too sure what I want, just not rejected ftom sex.