To say that I'm tired of my teenagers...

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I'm tired of making an effort with them...
I'm tired of being offended when they can't be bothered with me...
I'm tired of making them meals, only for them to piss off after...
I'm tired of giving them lifts when they don't appreciate it...
I'm tired of being offended by their attitude...
I'm tired of trying to make nice conversation...
I'm tired of encouraging them...

BUT I love them and I'll carry on being their lovely mum but GOD this is wearing! Think I'm just going to concentrate on me more and leave them to it but find it really hard as it feels like we're strangers!

Nobody tells you how wearing kids are.
I told my ds & his wife before they had one your life will never be yours forever...they now say only.you warned us.

I hear you!

DD2 recently upped and went to her Dad’s, and didn’t speak to me for two weeks.

My crime? I asked her to find one of her two clean duvet covers and put it on her bare duvet.

(Didn’t get done btw)

I am literally dreading parenting teens (two DC in upper primary). As a secondary teacher I can see how much they NEED parenting, nurturing, boundary setting etc but actually finding a way to give that parenting must be a bloody nightmare. My eldest is rejecting me quite a bit so I’m trying to take on board what you’re all saying about learning to be selfish and focusing on yourself again after all the years of being selfless and giving to your children.

Thank you for all the perspectives on here.

@HomeEdRocks18 I hope you're okay, that's not a nice thing to happen to you, but glad your other half realised and stepped up! They only realise when they have to! Good luck with your teens.

@Hotzenplotz haha, I think I'd get a lot for them actually, for their beauty and hugs!

@ChristOnAPeloton oh no...haha they really struggle with duvets don't they? You give them the simplest jobs and they think you're asking them to work all day!

[quote Ifeelmuchlessfat]@LagneyandCasey

Great idea, how far away is the shop? 10 miles? Would 50 be too far do you think? [/quote]
Haha! Shame it's only a 15 minute round trip. The main thing is she gets showered, dressed and does her hair and make up. However, it takes her half the day to do that. Getting her trainers on alone can be a 20 minute task

God knows how she'll get herself organised once school starts back. I said today that she'll have to set her alarm for 5am so she's ready to leave at 8am. That didn't go down well

I hear you.

@ChristOnAPeloton

I hear you!

DD2 recently upped and went to her Dad’s, and didn’t speak to me for two weeks.

My crime? I asked her to find one of her two clean duvet covers and put it on her bare duvet.

(Didn’t get done btw)

After I'd tidied and cleaned DDs room yesterday I asked her to put on a clean duvet cover. She asked me to do it for her as it was difficult. I explained she needed to learn and it would get easier with practice. After some moping and lamenting from her I offered advice on how to put on the duvet cover, at which point she told me she knows how, she just doesn't want her arms to ache. She's usually quite sporty I found myself offering her sympathy for her poor little arms.

I’ve adapted to our teen’s interests which I’ve been doing with them while they aren’t able to be with friends (fitness mainly but also a certain tv prog )- can you find common ground to share something they are excited about even if it’s not your thing initially ?
Though I did like the suggestion to sell them on eBay !

This has given me a real lift. Mum of 13 & 15 year olds. I've just been thinking about running away... they're so fkg ungrateful!

My DD is 12 so I am not there yet, but recently I have been thinking back on how awful I was as a teen. I can’t believe how selfish and self-absorbed I was for quite some time and I like to think I am a kind and compassionate person now. I am not sure what the answer is. Maybe trying to get them to see you as a person rather than a Mum. When I became a Mum, something really clicked that my Mother isn’t just my Mother, she is also a person in her own right. I think children don’t see that sometimes.

Mother of a DS16 here, who is apparently boring, no fun and a neo nazi (he’s revising for GCSEs sporadically and history is one of his subjects). I have introduced him to alcohol (a couple of bottles of beer a night) and given up trying to get him to revise.
Before anyone gives advice, up until the pandemic he was pretty much perfect. Laid back easy going, and compared to many of his friends we were breezing through the difficult teens. Our only consolation is that he is cooped up so cannot get into trouble outside of home during lockdown.
My heart goes out to the parents of anyone who was already struggling through the teen years. It must be hell on earth.
DS has been cause for concern at school, because he had breezed through most of last years lockdown but has really struggled with isolation since Christmas, his head of house was trying to sympathise with me saying he fully understood how difficult being a parent was since he was having problems with his 5yr old. I very nearly asked him if he’d like to swap. A 5yr old would be so much easier than the caged tiger I am currently dealing with.
I’m afraid if Boris doesn’t deliver on Monday I am no longer going to follow the rules. If my son wants to meet up with friends then it’s fine by me. I’d quite happily donate £10000 to any parent who was willing to organise a party for them. I’d do it myself but don’t have the room.