AIBU to be utterly shaken by this or??? Long story but my husband and I live in Germany. He’s German, I’m not. And I just found out today that his bank account has been frozen by the ministry of finance here. And I am utterly totally shocked and have no idea what to do. So shocked that I’m not even angry, I just feel kinda empty. He told me after dinner and tried to brush it off as just a minor oversight- he had not paid something, they had chased him for it, but he never got a letter, etc. I don’t know. We have joint finances, I work here, we pay taxes as far as I can tell, we even have an accountant whom I know, BUT because of the language barrier/German bureaucracy, I’ve kinda left him in charge of it. I just kinda froze when he told me and kicked him out of the living room. On the couch now. He’s... somewhere in the house. What do I do????
Background: he’s a pretty decent chap and we do have some pretty open finances. I do know that he’s incredibly shit at managing his personal matters - he’s always late with settling bills, etc. which drives me nuts because I’m really good with this stuff? But he’s an adult so I leave him to settle his crap as I don’t want to get involved. And I don’t want to spend every other day being his mom and reminding him to get his shit sorted. But this affects me doesn’t it?! What do I do??? How serious is this?!