Discussion with partner last night while watching some terrible reality TV dating type show....on the back of one of the participants saying they didn't find the other person attractive although they enjoyed their company.
Partner says well why is that relevant? I said well obviously you have to feel physically attracted to someone (and gave examples of a couple of guys I'd been on dates with before I met partner where there was no spark). He didn't accept it and said that it was ALL personality and when he met me it didn't matter what I looked like, he would have dated me if we'd just got on ok.
A few years ago (we've been together on and off for 7 years) he told me out of the blue that he'd not found me attractive on our first date 
but that I grew on him. However at other times he's told me the complete opposite.
I've always told him he was exactly my type physically and personality. .
Yet it seems periodically he comes out with this shit. It's odd because at other times he tells me how much more attractive I am in every sense than other women he's known. I don't really understand why he does it. I don't need his validation, I'm aware that in most terms I'm at least above average, so I don't need him to boost my self esteem. It seems weird though that he comes out with things that completely contradict stuff he's previously said. Another one was when I lost a lot of weight 3 years ago, he said to me recently that I look better now as then I didn't have a figure I was like a board...I was a 32g in a bra! Hardly a board.