To ask what is essential for a child's development?

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Redredwine2020 · 19/02/2021 10:52

I'm having an argument about what is essential to a child's development.

I say social opportunities outside of the home/family are essential. As well as exposure to regular life experiences/skills outside of the home.

AIBU?

What would you consider essential?

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SplendidSuns1000 · 19/02/2021 19:26

If you can't provide support for your child's social and emotional development at home without socialising with others or experiencing things outside of the home, there's an issue with your parenting.

Many children grow up only socialising with their parents until well into their childhood and flourish socially and emotionally in later life.

There are no excuses or reasons why a child should have delayed social development.

Notanotherhun · 19/02/2021 19:42

@SplendidSuns1000

Many children grow up only socialising with their parents until well into their childhood and flourish socially and emotionally in later life.

There are no excuses or reasons why a child should have delayed social development.

Except in a pandemic when being the sole carer of a toddler with the attention span of a gnat and a proclivity for tantrums.... makes being a parent really crap at times.

SplendidSuns1000 · 19/02/2021 19:59

@Notanotherhun But your toddler won't be developmentally delayed because of the pandemic. They're a toddler doing toddler things and you're being a great parent to them. They have the attention span of a toddler. They'll be okay, as will you.

Mumofsend · 19/02/2021 20:01

@SplendidSuns1000 child is in a specialist school. There are clearly additional needs so its not a case of bad parenting.

bloodywhitecat · 19/02/2021 20:12

@SplendidSuns1000

Many children grow up only socialising with their parents until well into their childhood and flourish socially and emotionally in later life.

There are no excuses or reasons why a child should have delayed social development.

Can you honestly not think of a situation where a child may have delayed social development with a parent who is doing absolutely everything they can?

InTheFamilyTree · 19/02/2021 20:17

@SplendidSuns1000 There is research that says once kids get to about 3 they really benefit from social opportunities with peers/other kids. Play, especially with others is essential to begin practising and developing social skills. So I would argue that it is essential, for a 6 year olds social and emotional development

ginnybag · 19/02/2021 20:26

So you're being told that its okay for you 6 year old to go to school and then sit in the house?

No walks, no parks, nothing?

No, that's not okay.

peboh · 19/02/2021 20:27

As a parent with a significantly developmentally delayed child threads like this made me so sad 😅

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