AIBU to ignore her birthday? WWYD?

[BubbleBathBitch]

To try and be succinct, my niece is about to turn 17, and she has just blocked me from Instagram, Facebook, all of them. (Very playground, I know!) I think it stems from her mum (my SIL) who has never liked me and has recently caused a big argument in the family leading to a few fallouts. I have had to distance myself from her for my own MH but always try to keep a channel open to my niece and three nephews. But now my niece has blocked me and it's her birthday in early March, it is absolutely not in my nature to not send her a gift, but for how much longer do I try and keep the peace before I realise I'm just a mug!? I think she's old enough to know her own mind, but I do think the blocking will have come from SIL (she has turned friends against me in the past so I'm used to her methods!) DH says absolutely NOT to sending a gift, but I'm leaning towards sending something so it's not me that has become the "bad guy"!? I'm overthinking it massively but would appreciate some guidance!

So basically, niece blocked me on social media, about to turn 17, do I rise above it and send her a gift anyway? I've changed my mind every day for about a week!

Don't know if it makes any difference but I have two nieces belonging to my other brother and have a lovely relationship with them 😢

YABU - send a gift!
YANBU - absolutely do NOT send a gift!

What if she was made to block you by her mum? You are then punishing her for doing as she was asked to do by a parent. I would send her a present and card as usual and try not to involve her in the adult squabbles.

I would spend the same on her that I spend on any other nephews/nieces for their birthday. I just couldn’t treat one differently to another tbh regardless of how their batshit spiteful parent (I have an estranged SIL ) has influenced them to behave.

Getting blocked on social media doesn't mean she doesn't want a relationship! Is this the world nowadays? It could mean anything. Maybe she doesn't want a grown up/ grown up family member knowing her business, maybe she's cutting down her contacts and getting. Rid of those she interacts with less or even those she sees in real life. Maybe she's coming off social media and hasn't actually blocked you but is in the process of deleting her account, maybe her Mum got annoyed. So many reasons. Send a gift, carry on as normal. When she's 18 if you really think she's still avoiding you just send a card or nothing but I wouldn't assume you have the full story.

Send a card. It shows you care and you've not stooped for tit for tat.

But it also says you don't get a present from someone who block. She's 17 not 7. She should understand the ramifications of that.

Even if it was her mother insisting on blocking you she's old enough to have a phone or other means of contacting you if she wants.

I'd send a small gift inside a card & same for her 18th. You can be done after that but doing it a couple more times will help to avoid playing into any drama. SIL sounds a piece of work, what does your brother think about it all?

How about a card and a fiver? I

No way would I have wanted relatives on my social media at that age! Completely reasonable that she decided not to have you on there.
I didn't have any of my older family members on mine until after uni. I didn't want to feel like I couldn't post certain stuff.

Still send a card and small gift. You'd be childish not to if it's what you usually do.

I'd send her a card. I stopped buying my needed and nephews presents after their 16th

Also I frequently delete people who don't post as I don't see why they should enjoy my content without contributing themselves. So that could also be a potential reason?