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to be annoyed and slightly pissed off with DH?

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FriedGreenTomatoes · 03/11/2007 11:37

Ok ladies - AIBU or not?

My family (parents and sis) are visiting for the weekend, and whilst tidying the house I sent DH out to get provisions for lunch. Knowing that he needs slightly more direction I suggested nice rolls and a selection of meets and cheeses, salads etc.
DH has just walked in the door with....5 microwave curries
His reason? They are quick and easy!!Hmm...well I'm sorry but how does microwaving 5 separate meals for 8 minutes each allow us to all eat together at lunch?
Besides which, he KNOWS what I feel about microwave meals (that they are cancer inducing). And we already had a "discussion" when he went out to the shops a few months ago with my shopping list and came back with a week's worth of ready meals (along with the classic line "I know you sent me out with a list of ingredients, but I thought it was more sensible to get the ingredients ready made than have the hassle of cooking". As if he does the cooking anyway!!)

OP posts:

splishsplosh · 03/11/2007 11:39

No, because you gave him clear instructions
Yes, because you expected him to follow them!


mamazon · 03/11/2007 11:40



FCH · 03/11/2007 11:41

No - YANBU - send him back to the shops to get rolls, meats and cheeses, or give him something horrendous to do while you go. He clearly needs a shake!


DixiePixie · 03/11/2007 11:47

My DH emptied the washing machine and put my delicate "do not tumble dry" clothes on high heat AGAIN this morning despite the fact that I keep telling him that he will destroy my clothes if he does this. (I always ask him to please leave my laundry alone - I will deal with it!!!)

Although I'm sure that some DHs out there are fantastic at listening to instructions - or indeed listening to anything that their DWs say - there is some biological imperative for some DHs to totally ignore anything that is said to them by anyone and boldly do their own thing whatever

I reckon YANBU


PrincessGoodLife · 03/11/2007 11:52

Can they be done in the oven too?

Slap them in the freezer and send him out again with stricter instructions and a stern look?

Or send him out to buy four more microwaves for you. Just think how much easier life could become . 'In the midst of difficulty lies opportnity' or something...


ChubbyScotsBurd · 03/11/2007 11:55

YANBU. It's SO tedious when they do this sort of stuff - and that look they give you when you tell them they've cocked up - sort of hurt and indignant all at once. FFS, simple requests ...

:having another one of those days:


MarkStretch · 03/11/2007 11:57

We had a little tea party for dd and some friends the other day and I sent DP out to buy pizza and some chicken drumsticks (meaning proper chicken legs I could roast in the oven with some nice herbs). He came back with the cheapest crappiest cheese and tomato pizzas he could find and Bernard Matthews Chicken Drumsticks. ERGH!

I felt like feeding them to the children would be akin to feeding them poison. Why are they so rubbish?!?!?!


MarkStretch · 03/11/2007 11:59

I made HIM eat the drumsticks and the chicken was grey on the inside. God its making me feel sick thinking about them- he thought they were lovely!


FriedGreenTomatoes · 03/11/2007 12:10

Well I have just returned from the shops with proper provisions for lunch, as well as ingredients for chilli con carne for dinner. I told DH the chilli was only for my family. He looked hurt and asked "what about me? what am I going to eat?" So I told him "one of those damned microwave curries"

I feel a bit mean. But only a little bit

OP posts:

nametaken · 03/11/2007 13:01

Next time he asks you to do something for him make sure you completely cock it up.


ExplosiveScienceT · 03/11/2007 13:34

YANBU, but LOL at your DH. What a lad!


perpetualworrier · 03/11/2007 13:46

I get this lots. DH is great and I get loads of help around the house compared to some of my friends, but I have to give precise instructions every time and them they're followed about 50% of the time.

He works Sat mornings and will sometimes pick up a bit of a treat for lunch on his way home. Last night we agreed we'd have decent sausages and bread rolls and make hot dogs for lunch. I've peeled a mound of onions ready, he walks in at 12:30, bread rolls, but no sausages!

He's been great since. I took DS1 out to get sausages, while he did homework with DS2 and since we got back he's been chasing them both round the garden with the Autumn leaves, while we wait for said sausages to cook, so all's well that ends well I suppose, but how frustrating is it?

I've also lost count of the clothes that have been runined when he "helps" with the laundry. Once I could understand, but it's not like he never been told.


perpetualworrier · 03/11/2007 13:47

Sorry, got so tied up in my rant forgot YANBU.


BlokeDH · 03/11/2007 20:23

Score one for the blokes.

He should have brought back some tins as well.

Big up.


Hekate · 03/11/2007 20:30

My dh is like this and God help me but my lads are turning out the same.

Help. Me.


RosaTransylvania · 04/11/2007 00:18

My DH is forbidden on pain of death to go anywhere near the washing machine.
On the plus side DD3's dolls have some very lovely Monsoon cardigans that are now in their exact size.


madamez · 04/11/2007 00:27

Actually this is really crap behaviour on his part: he's neither a toddler nor (presumably) a moron. He's doing it on purpose to demonstrate: 'I am MAN and therefore too important to do menial tasks, don't ask me again, I could be using that time to play on my playstation/drink beer/have a wank'.


expatinscotland · 04/11/2007 00:35

he's trying to fob this off on you.

so you know what, his ass would have been back to teh shops to get the fucking rolls and meats.

what twat behaviour.

his line of thinking is, 'if i cock it up, she won't ask me again.'

well, don't fall for that line of crap.

and next time he asked me to do something for him, i'd beyond fuck it up.


bamamama · 04/11/2007 00:42

I once sent dh out for 'basics' you know, milk, bread, eggs. He came back with some mushrooms and a pineapple. Now he complains about my list writing!


GoodGollyMissMolly · 04/11/2007 09:09

Lol at mushrooms and pineapple for basics

Do I have the only DH, who does things right and without being asked?
Although I do have to be very specific with food lists though, but generally he does food shopping ok.
I thought all men were like my DH (My dad is the same) maybe I'm very naive about the abilities of men in general.


peskipixie · 04/11/2007 09:55

i was going to say same as madamez and expat - i once talked to a bloke who 'accidentally' smashed plates every time he washed up and 'accidentally' pulled the wire out of the hoover when he hoovered so his wife didnt ask him to do stuff again. make him go back next time, and before you send him tell him you will do this. and confiscate his games console/tv/whatever like you would a sulky teen til he does it right. i hope his curry was crap


lucyellensmum · 04/11/2007 10:36

OK - so leave him at home with his five pots of microwave curry (i wont even have a microwave - evil things) and go out for a lovely sunday lunch with mum and sis. With his money of course. Wanker!


madamez · 04/11/2007 12:37

There is no genetic or biological basis for men being 'unable' to do useful tasks or follow instructions. THe theory that men have certain skills and women certain others has a very simple translation: the group with the power wants to make up convincing arguments for the other group doing their shitwork for them. You might as well say that the poor or lower class are programmed by evolution or gods to service their 'betters' it would make about as much scientific sense.


amytheearwaxbanisher · 04/11/2007 12:42

muppet!men can be idiots


NKF · 04/11/2007 12:53

He's doing the task badly so you don't ask him again.

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