Covid ffs

[phillyroad]

Prior to covid DH was a businessman, played golf, out in the community, seeing friends. He has always worked in his family business, him and bil took over 12 years ago they were fine with everything apart from admin, I went part time to help, then went full time 4 years ago, at their request. Since I did they basically took a step back (apart from their roles and left me to run it ) 2019 had enough went on strike (cos I was apparently not needed) watched business fall into a shit state with both of them begging me to come back, we sorted out our relationship problems (mine and husbands) and issue with BIL. 2020 Covid we are non essential so been closed more than open, they have now both turned into children Boris says we have to stay at home ffs we are furloughed NO YOU ARE NOT YOUR ON SEISS, business still needs to run bills to be paid, one member of staff looking after the stock, we can do click and collect but they have no interest its only me working, where they think its amazing that they can drink stay up all night, sleep in and offer me no help whatsoever, so do not even understand the grants they have been given let alone applied for them!! Sorry rant over am so gonna lose it

Can you transfer your skills into paid employment elsewhere? And just leave them to fail on their own?

I can but I get to take my pension in a few years at age 55, the business would be in a shit state which would impact a) DH and b) would really ruin his DB life cos noone would employ him (well they would cos he talks a good talk) then be sacked minute he goes awol for days turns up late, with an I do not care arrogant attitude. DH was never like this until lockdown and its now only his brother he speaks to (apart from me and PIL when I put him on the phone to them FIL is shocked and wants them to grow up MIL is like well they are my babies- no they are not they are over 50 had a life of thinking they are entitled and you giving in to them )

It should not be up to you to protect them from their own uselessness. Though I know it affects you, so it’s a difficult position.

Perhaps you need to work out what would happen if you stepped away to work at a job of your own. Would it force them to step up or bring things to a head regarding the future of the business. Could it be sold? All the while you are holding it together they are able to go away and play.

At the moment you are taking all the responsibility for two quite entitled people who want the fun and none of the work. It doesn't seem as if either is motivated or particularly interested in a business that has been handed to them. Seems to be a thing in some family businesses. When you don't have to answer to others, motivation can be difficult when you didn't have the original drive and determination to set it up.

Are your DHs parents still involved, shareholders, directors? Can you call a family conference to make a decision?

You say your husband wasn’t like this until lockdown, yet you already had to go as extreme as strike and actually impact the business in 2019.

I’d take my skills elsewhere.

I wouldn’t give a flying fuck about his brother - sounds like mummy would look after her babies anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don’t know how you’ve stood it this long!

And your title is way off. Don’t blame Covid for them being a pair of idiots.

The strike in 2019 was not caused by DH it was his DB who thought he could run it and caused us a load of grief initially DH stood by the family business but soon realised it was doomed and also backed away, but we were convinced to come back, and it did change until covid hit, now its a nightmare!!