Am I wrong?

[paulhollywoodshairgel]

I have 2 dc. LB 7 LG 10. Occasionally they ask if they can go to sleep together. I think this is really sweet. They are very close and open about how much the love each other which I think is lovely (more than likely won't last as they get older)

I mentioned this in passing to a family member. They went all strange and said by letting them sleep in the same bed I'm going to make them grow up weird and how she thought it was weird and made her cringe. I got a bit huffy and suggested perhaps she's the one that's weird for thinking that way? They are children fgs. It's not like I'd allow it when they're older and I highly doubt they'll want too. I think at the moment they are close and why shouldn't I encourage that??

It's niggled me! Am I bu???

I agree with you, the family member is strange indeed.

I wouldn't encourage a 7 yo boy to sleep with a 10 yo girl. For starters a girl that age could soon be going through puberty so it's a nope from me.

Family member is creepy

Mine always did this. Are 14 and 12 now and are only just growing out of it (they still sometimes have sleepovers but make a camp bed on the floor). YANBU, it’s lovely that they’re close.

I think she will just stop wanting to do it when she gets a bit older (starting high school this year) at the moment she just adores her little bro! I can hear them now laughing and chatting... makes me happy in these shit times ❤️

I wouldn't encourage a 7 yo boy to sleep with a 10 yo girl. For starters a girl that age could soon be going through puberty so it's a nope from me

They are siblings, not strangers!! I'm sure the 10yr old will soon voice concern if she's feeling uncomfortable.

My 8 and 13yr olds randomly have sleepover movie nights in the eldest's room.

YANBU.

@Slub should we all be put in a hut away from the villagers once puberty begins? Weird!

@combatbarbie

I wouldn't encourage a 7 yo boy to sleep with a 10 yo girl. For starters a girl that age could soon be going through puberty so it's a nope from me

They are siblings, not strangers!! I'm sure the 10yr old will soon voice concern if she's feeling uncomfortable.

My 8 and 13yr olds randomly have sleepover movie nights in the eldest's room.

My thoughts exactly. She will decide. She's a clever little lady that will not do anything she's not happy with believe me 😂

YANBU at all - perfectly normal

Mine only stopped doing this a couple of years ago, aged 10 & 12. They will still share a room on holiday, but different beds and I love how they have a laugh together

Bloody hell my eldest kids are both in their 20s and wouldn't think twice of sleeping in the same (albeit double) bed even now after a night out - but they often had 'sleepovers' with their younger brother all in the same room as kids... Christmas Eve was a favourite of theirs, not so much mine!

I think it’s sweet, and I’m sure OP knows her children well enough to know whether or not she needs to be given an out from the situation.

It’s nice they get on. Your family member nuts.

I hope mine get on that well when they're older. Weird to imply this is in anyway wrong with siblings who get on well

I think it’s fine for kids to sleep over.

Maybe the person who said it had a difficult experience in their childhood or family with a sleep over?

It’s weird that your family member thinks it’s weird.

Absolutely not an issue at all!

@AIMD

I think it’s fine for kids to sleep over.

Maybe the person who said it had a difficult experience in their childhood or family with a sleep over?

That's what I thought. I wouldn't want to say "your friend is strange" because we never know what experiences may be clouding their judgement.

But in general, you're not wrong. It's sweet. And like you said, they'll grow out of it eventually.

My kids (8 and 10) love a sleepover!

It's fun for them, 10 is still young really.

Family member is being a weirdo.

I was about 8 when my brother, 18 months older than me, started sexually abusing me. 11 when he first raped me.

"sweet" isn't the first word that comes to mind.
Sibling abuse is very much under the radar.

YANBU - at all! Like you said, it is sweet and won't last forever. Your family member is the one with the problem!

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay

I was about 8 when my brother, 18 months older than me, started sexually abusing me. 11 when he first raped me.

"sweet" isn't the first word that comes to mind.
Sibling abuse is very much under the radar.

Projecting!

Op do they sleep on separate mattresses? I think there's a difference between sharing a bed and having a sleepover. My DC (older boy, younger girl) had sleepovers a lot when younger. They went from sleeping in the same bed (4/6yo) to top to tailing (6/8yo) to them dragging DDs mattress in to DSs room (8/10). They're 14 and 16 now and barely speak 😂

@Slub what a weird reply from you, you must have very strange thoughts. It wouldn't even enter my mind to question this, what's to question? Kids being kids, having late night chats and falling asleep together is perfectly normal and lovely that they want to. It's being a way of family life for centuries with big families. Mine are same ages and always sleep in each other's beds together ,ridiculous people out there to question it

My friends DC used to sleep together most nights & bath together. Same ages as yours. They were quite old when it slowly petered off. But they're physically very comfortable with each other even now, as much older teens, it's quite sweet.

It's only 'weird' to thise with weird minds. Best ignored.

It's only 'weird' to thise with weird minds. Best ignored.
absolutely, sweep it under the carpet, pretend that incest and sexual abuse never happens.

I was 9 when my 11 old brother abused me. I suppose I was ‘lucky not to get pregnant, that would’ve been even more shit. Crack on, OP, as a PP mentioned, incest is just ignored/hidden.