Did I do the right thing?

[Sad06]

So, was with my fiancé for 7 years. Totally loved and adored him. He was very up and down and over reacted to so much. Accused me of having affairs (I'm not like that), I couldn't go out with friends as he would message to check on me. Had to be careful how I dressed. He was unkind to ky daughter but when he 'tried' to make an effort he made a big song and dance and expected praise. He had a son who I adored. The kick offs got too much and he would drink too much and there would always be a drama. I would always be on my best behaviour to avoid aggro. Last weekend he went mortal. I had to call his parents to help. My daughter was hysterical in her room over it again.
Now settling at parents house, happy without the drama, saving to get me and my daughter another life. Am I wrong to miss him tonight?

also he wa snever perfect it was an act

Yes you are wrong. You should have told him to fuck off the first time he was horrible to your child.

No your not wrong, love is powerful drug. How long was you living with him prior to you moving out? Has he messaged you at all?

@Sad06

Thanks. I know I'm doing the right thing. My daughter has such a lovely nature and keeps thanking me. Thanks for your replies.

Your daughter is thanking you. Poor girl. Imagine all that she must’ve kept bottled up when she was witnessing and experiencing his domestic abuse. You need to keep your focus on her now and keep her safe. I’d advise you t9 do the Freedom Programne, this will help you stay strong.

You managed a post of his abysmal and controlling behaviour, that contained no positives about him or the relationship.
You know that you have done the right thing.

When he was good it was an act, he wasn't perfect at all. He is abusive. Stay away, don't teach your daughter that this is what a relationship is

You're not wrong to miss him. You're not even wrong to have some feelings left for him. But please stay away from him. My aunt has a terrible habit of going with awful men who are abusive to her and her children. They don't get better and they don't change.

@RedPandaMama

Not wrong to miss him, no, but please don't go back. Block and delete his number, social media etc. Start afresh. I work with victims of domestic abuse and see people go back time and time again. Remember how he treated you, and think about how he'll treat your daughter when she grows up, if you were to keep this man in your life.

It's you and your daughter now. Get yourselves a fresh start.

And just a heads up, you can present to any council in the UK as homeless since you've been a victim of domestic abuse, and they have a duty to rehouse you. Doesn't have to be your local council.

Good luck OP. Stay strong x

This totally

Maybe you miss companionship rather than him?

It’s fine to acknowledge you feel whatever you feel and there is no right or wrong with feelings.

But this man is bad for you and your daughter and you need to eliminate him from your life.

It will get easier. Stay strong.

You are missing your 'normal', as anyone would in your circumstances. The good news is that it doesn't last, you create a new normal much faster than you'd think and as the days go by you notice more and more positives about not being with him. Just grit your teeth and get through the first few days, I promise it gets easier