Does that make sense?

[DrinkRefilled]

Arghhhhhh

Why does everyone now add this phrase to the end of any instruction?

It’s everywhere. I hear it 28 times a day.

It unleashes my inner fury.

I cannot express my hatred in real life as I will end up being sacked due to 80% of it being said on our works team chat.

Please, if you use this phrase please consider NOT using it OR thinking up a new end to your statement.

Doesn't it just mean "am I being clear?"

Given the problems of written daily comms, I don't think is unreasonable.

Some will say "Arghhhhhh" is the devil's handiwork and may ask you to consider a different expression to make them happy. Would you? Not sure I would, so to each their own. Does that make sense?

I know someone for whom it has become a subconscious habit. And it drives me mad. It’s no different to ‘you know what I mean?’, ‘sort of’ and ‘like’, in my opinion.

I would guess because they want to know if it makes sense?

Does that make sense?

I use it when people are making the duuurrrrrr face and I have no idea if they heard or understood me.

Try changing your face.

I think it's because when we work remotely, we don't receive the same non-verbal feedback to validate that we are being understood and that makes us insecure so we feel the need to ask. I do it myself and it is because there is nothing worse than speaking for a couple of minutes and then being greeted with complete silence instead of the normal nods, smiles and murmurs of agreement. I am trying to give positive feedback more to my colleagues so they don't feel the doubt creeping in when they have just stated a really good point or shared a really good idea.

Agree OP. Such an irritating phrase. I think because it sounds a bit condescending.

But for the first response to your post, I'd thought 'Arghhhh' was the word you had an issue with but it didn't really make sense with the rest of your OP.

So thanks to the first poster but please consider being more clear next time or using "Does that make sense?" when you end your posts'. Some of us need it. Thanks hun xx

Better than people who just say "Yeah?"

What can we use instead? Let me know if you have any questions?

I say this a lot, mainly because I know that I can be a bit waffley and not always make sense

Yup, hate it. Twee, faux self-deprecation, with a passive-aggressive edge.

'Silly, cute, little fluffy-brained me can't possibly state something with confidence... because what if you disagree, or pull me up on it not making sense? But, if you don't get what I mean and reassure me that I am so, so right, immediately, I will regard you as bad, hateful and wrong.'

It's very similar to the written habit (I see on here so much) of adding a '?' to the end of a statement. Passive aggressive, whiny, attention-seeking bullshit, the lot of it.

Do you ever answer 'No, not really. In fact it would really help me if you could do your thinking before sharing your conclusions, in future. Thanks'.

Not as fucking irritating as arghhhhhh!

Not that is irritating, I hope that makes sense?

*now that

I think it’s ok in conversation. I agree with a PP that’s it’s useful in that it forces colleagues to respond.

In emails though? No. If it doesn’t make sense either rewrite the email or let the recipient come back to you and ask. It’s either patronising towards the recipient or indicates you don’t believe in what you’re saying.

My sister in law and another close friend say it constantly! I don't hate it but it is a noticeable quirk, I don't even think they realise they're doing it!

Worked with someone who said this at the end of every sentence. Sometimes she said it twice in a row.
Also had someone who said Do you understand?
It's okay in context but not when using it as a full stop.

@DrinkRefilled

Arghhhhhh

Why does everyone now add this phrase to the end of any instruction?

It’s everywhere. I hear it 28 times a day.

It unleashes my inner fury.

I cannot express my hatred in real life as I will end up being sacked due to 80% of it being said on our works team chat.

Please, if you use this phrase please consider NOT using it OR thinking up a new end to your statement.

Do you have a particularly vacant expression and peopel feel the need to confirm you've understood?

Typical counselling and therapeutic language
To ensure the person is following psycho education or an exercise

I think many people use it on teams/zoom to get a sense of feedback as it can be a dead or flat medium
A lot of people seem to need reassurance they aren’t simply talking like a loon to a screen

The boat can shopping while frame cat paws plugging in the socket running leaves and timetables. Garumph! Twisted handbag and closeted nosebag.

Does that make sense?

Could be worse they could be saying do you know what I mean after every frigging sentence

It is irritating, I agree. Just answer ‘No’ with a deadpan face.

I sometimes say it when people have blank faces because I need some feedback and they are just being inert. Perhaps it gets said to you because you are not giving appropriate cues?

@SqeakyHindge

Could be worse they could be saying do you know what I mean after every frigging sentence

In a scouse accent