Ceilidh at a wedding this year?

[Spoilsportsday]

My friend is planning a wedding for this summer. She was more keen on having a wedding band but her mum thinks she should be having a ceilidh and my friend has been persuaded over to that and told me she has made enquiries now with ceilidh bands.

I’m really reticent as whilst I’m a fan in normal times, I really wouldn’t want to be holding hands and dancing in such close proximity with a large group of people in Covid-19 times. It’s not just going to go away and social distancing be dammed by then. Im afraid the ceilidh band will be playing and not many people will partake. Or worse, people do partake and everyone ends up with covid-19. My concern is added to by the fact the majority of the guests, myself and the couple included, are health care workers/carers who come in contact with +be patients daily.
Obviously we don’t know what situation we are going to be in by July but I’m not optimistic that this is a good idea.
I think at least a normal rock/ pop wedding band means people can have a shuffle in their own space, or in small groups with people they know, rather than congregating on the dance floor in a large group.

Please tell me if I’m being miserable and alarmist- YABU.
If my concerns are valid- YANBU.

OP it’s nice that you’re thinking of your friend. If I were you I’d say something like “ah I absolutely ceilidhs at weddings, so much fun! But I do feel like I have to say something, as I really don’t want you to be disappointed - I read somewhere (can’t remember where now) that social distancing measures are likely going to remain in place at weddings even when the numbers increase, so are you sure it’s not a lot more risky to go with this plan? I would honestly love it if it were a possibility but I’m just worried that you’re going to be disappointed when it’s not allowed”

That way you’re not raining on her parade telling her it’s a stupid idea or you don’t want to take part, you’re supporting her and just warning her of a risk she might not have thought of

Yabu for being overinvested. Sounds like you and her mum should remember whose day it is.

Usually love a ceilidh at a wedding (when there's enough people to get into it) but it's not going to happen anytime soon. Maybe something like @Conkergame 's reply would work?

Even if it does go ahead, the ceilidh part is usually only a couple of hours tops before the disco part kicks in. You can just sit out the ceilidh dances if you don’t fancy them.

I suspect that Covid may interfere with her plans anyway, but even if they go ahead you can control the extent of your own participation.