For not calling my friends?!

[FanOfTheCheese]

I’m normally a very sociable person and I’m lucky to have a nice network of friends. I’m usually the organiser getting everyone together and calling round.
Last few months I’ve been calling people. Msg etc meeting up for walks when we could etc but I’ve got to the point I just cannot be bothered now.
I’ve not spoken to my friends apart from my closest friends for a few weeks now I’ve had msg and missed calls but I really have nothing to say. I am very hermit like atm and completely against my usual personality but I feel like the days are more manageable like this- Aibu to carry on hermit style?

So you’ve had messages and missed calls but not bothered replying? Carry on being a hermit if you wish, but consider that you may push your friends away. Depends on whether that bothers you.

Not sure whether YABU or YANBU, but I feel the same. I have invested so much time, like you, in building friendships over the years. But the last few months I simply want to retreat under the covers and chill out by myself: each Zoom or phone call feels like an energy drain and not something to look forward to.

I have found people sympathetic when they have tried to arrange a call and I have explained that am feeling a bit low/hibernation-inclined so can we stick to messaging for the time being?

Of course they say that - but we'll see who sticks around. Hopefully the fact that I have been a thoughtful friend for years (and that during lockdown I still remember birthday cards, presents etc. or to send flowers or a book when they are having a particularly hard week) will count for something.

I have found my friends are being very similar atm. I've been arranging vid calls and they sit and look at me. To me it's giving me a clear message they don't want to do it so I've stopped but I don't hold it against them. Life is strange atm.

I totally understand. What is there to say anymore? YANBU.

I've had similar issues. I have no energy to do it and sick of the same video calls etc and the fact Noone has new news to say.
However, I also feel like I'm losing freinds because of it.
It's probably worth replying to them explaining how you are feeling, or the end result could be losing freinds x

I'm feeling the same op nothing really much to say and sick of zoom calls and the like!