Do we reach a certain age, or have we had enough experience to realise when friendships are turning ugly. I just sense it.
Every bone in my body tells me this friend is not my friend anymore, I have tried to distance myself but it's getting to the point I just want to cut her out of my life.
I guess with lockdown many friendships and relationships have suffered, but I have had alarm bells for a whole year before that.
One more than one occasion I have been with her and felt no connection at all, infact shes irritated me to the point I wanted to leave and have left.
It's not that shes a bad person (shes not a murderer) it's just shes hard work. She plays mind games, she's flakey as fuck, and on the whole now I look back and see how she is with others (she has fallen out with a lot of other women) I just literally don't want her in my life.
The trouble is our kids are friends. I also feel our kids have grown apart as kids do, different schools and friends.
She is moving and I hope to move too and to me it seems a natural time to break away.
I did speak to her about this before, and she agreed to mostly what I said about however I think she also manipulated me and the situation as I was upset at the time in my life.
She makes me feel anxious, and while once we were close we are far from that. I see what others see, she is fake and drains me, she is hard work.
Is it ok as adults to just completely cut someone out when you don't live far from eachother and the kids ask after eachother still? What do I do?