Hi all, I’ve taken covid pretty seriously. Probably more seriously than my relatives who are more likely at greater risk than me but anyway.
Mil is in her early 60’s. She lives with her husband and 2 of their grown up children. They live pretty close by. We seen them at Christmas but not since. Well dp has been over there and chatted from the outside a few times as he works just Up the road from her. Even before covid it was not unusual not to see them for a few weeks at a time. She works full time as does her husband and so do we. Finding time we were all free was hard.
Anyway, she’s texted and invited us over to dinner this weekend for her birthday. Dp told her that we aren’t really allowed. We will drop a card and a little gift over of course but we are not going in. Maybe she can see dc from a distance when they are in the car or something.
She was very dismissive saying that the cases are low here and we could form a support bubble. I told her that we do not meet the criteria for one. Quite frankly I’m fed up of some people using the term support bubble when they don’t meet the criteria for one!!
Dp is in a huff cos he wants to take dc. I told her that it’s a risk I’m not willing to take. His siblings don’t follow the rules at all and constantly mix with people, parties, travelling to other areas. On that alone it’s a no.
They are very dismissive of the virus but I’m not the bad guy for putting my foot down.
To add, I’m grieving a loved one who died and It wouldn’t feel right that I would be spending time with the in laws when I can’t even see my own family.
If they could just hold on a few weeks until April. Maybe lockdown will ease and the better weather means we’ll be able to go over into their garden like we did last summer a few times.
Aibu to just put my foot down and refuse? I’m certainly not going and I don’t want dp to take the children over.
Surely I’m being unreasonable?
To make it worse they both have health problems which make them somewhat vulnerable but I feel they are more of a risk to us as they just don’t give a shite!
Always made to feel like the bad guy 🤦