AIBU to think that who earns more should not matter.

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Having this issue with my Kids dad. We have been split up for 7 years now. One child in primary school and one in secondary school.
We get csa and it’s 30.00 a week based on his wages.
I have children 24/7 he sees them 4-5 times a year.
I never ask for anything else. I buy all school uniform / childcare / Xmas / birthday / sports clubs / music lessons.
I have tried really hard to pay our house off. They never do go without and we have a very nice life.
We can take holidays / school trips away etc
He thinks due to the massive pay gap ( I would say I earn around 75 percent more than him ) that I should should stop with the CSA payments.
Yes I have a good wage however it does pretty much go on the children.
The 120 we get from him a month is given directly to the kids. I do not use it for anything to do with me.

Should parents who earn more and the sole carer of the kids not take money if the other parent earns less ?

Should add he doesn’t have any other responsibilities. He has never moved out of home.

No. It's £120 a month, he can't expect to opt out of his responsibility to his children (financially at least, he seems to not bother with them much overall) just because you earn more.

As he's only seeing them 4 or 5 times a year, I personally think you're well within your rights to ask for CSA. Just because he earns less doesn't negate his responsibility to contribute to his children financially. My bil has his sons every weekend and still pays CSA.

He helped make them he should help provide for them. Doesn’t matter at all if you earn more than him.

Thanks! Making sure I wasn’t being an absolute a*.
It has all started to be an issue now I have a new new DP and 3rd child so think
It’s more about that for him !

Of course not, both parents should contribute.

I wouldn’t even entertain this it is so obviously wrong.

God no, how on earth could he justify going down from £30 a week when he barely sees them!!

So he's a piece of shit that thinks he shouldn't have to contribute to his children's upbringing? £120 is nothing!

If you were still together he would expect to contribute propoertionally to house, feed and clothe his kids, presumably? Not keep his entire income for himself?

So he pays £15 per week per child.

Would that even buy his kids lunch for a week.

I can see why you separated OP.

He hardly sees his children, leaving you to do all the parenting, and he thinks that he shouldn’t have to contribute to the financial cost of raising them either because you earn more than him?

I can’t imagine why he’s your ex

That's based on his earnings, of course he should pay. Not your fault he has a crap job.

Of course he should pay for his dc, and in my opinion it should be a lot more that £30 per week whatever he earns. That wouldn’t even feed mine. Yanbu. He on the other hand is an absolute disgrace.