Guilt tripped by my mum

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I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not. My mum lives on her own so technically I am her support bubble. But my brother also visits her. She's been in and out of hospital for treatment and actually caught Covid whilst in hospital (we think) before Christmas. Thankfully she's recovered now.

I've been visiting her on the weekends when she hasn't had a hospital visit in the week. But if she's been to hospital that week then I don't go. She's very sniffy about this and guilt trips me. I call her every other day, it's not like we don't speak.

I'm mindful of infection levels being very high and I'm just trying to manage my risk. My husband is ECV, and I'm over 50.

Am fed up of being made to feel shit about this.

Maybe you could let you brother be her support bubble as she is breaking the rules by seeing him too. In my opinion you have to put yourself first if husband is ECV and she has another option. I understand she is lonely but she shouldn’t be guilt tripping you, that not fair. Sending hugs x

Thanks for your reply. My brother is part of the problem tbh as he thinks I should be visiting her too - he's a bit 'sod the rules, she's lonely.' Not helpful.

Sounds tough. I'm with pp. let your brother be her bubble.

Remind her it's also for her own safety.

You speak every other day. Can you FaceTime etc?

But absolutely don't be guilted. There's no need for that. My parents miss my dc like crazy. But they make do with the video calls/photos/waving at the garden gate we can do right now. They'd never try to guilt us into coming over.

Let your brother be her bubble. You can't both be.