To be more excited for my daughter future than my own?

[thefuturesbrightandorange]

My daughter is 7 years old, we have a very unique relationship I guess you could say but a very close and humorous one. She is everything (already at 7) that I never was.

I was a nightmare from a young age, I remember always feeling differently to others and always comparing myself and feeling jealous of others from a very young age. I don't remember really ever feeling happy in childhood, I was full of so much rage and that would come out in horrible ways, through misbehaviour, screaming, hitting, smashing things. This only got worse in my teenage years.

Life's better now, I do feel happy, my temper has subsided a lot and I'm a much more mellow person. I am in my 3rd year at uni on my way to becoming a social worker and life is pretty good, I have a lot to be excited for however, my main excitement is my daughter future.

I really couldn't care less about mine, when I think of my future, it's fine but when I think of my daughters that is what sparks real excitement.

I feel so happy for her, she has all these experiences to live, I wonder if she'll get married, have kids, what job she'll end up with, how she'll dress, what her personality will be like. And I just feel so excited to see it all I could burst! I don't hold high expectations, it's not about that, I just can't wait to see WHO she truly is as an adult.

I didn't have a happy childhood and I guess I would like to see how someone that does have a happy childhood turns out.

AIBU?

YANBU OP.

I also didn't have a good childhood, and I knew from a very young age that when I was older I wanted to have children and give them what I never had. I love my kids and am amazed at their potential and excited to see what they do in the world.

@georgarina yes that's exactly it, I gave her the childhood I never had, even though I had to consciously make sure I acted differently than my parents, and that wasn't always easy as it was all that I had known. I can see how different she is in comparison to me at that age, and I know it's paying off. Well done to you too! It's so exciting and I'm sure our kids will continue growing into amazing adults

yanbu to be excited for her but be careful to keep it relatively secret to you.. if you make it about your hopes and wishes she may not turn out at all like you dream and make very different choices to those you hope she makes.