Dd is 15 and in Year 10. She has suffered mental health issues throughout lockdown and has self harmed. She ended up in A and E after a paracetamol overdose. CAMHS assessed her and she’s having therapy with them. She takes things literally- like sticking her legs out of an upper floor window when her therapist suggested she get fresh air when she’s upset. She can become extremely distressed very quickly.
The therapist has suggested she may have autism and we are going through the referral process. She has significant sensory issues and becomes avoidant and distressed when schoolwork is mentioned.
She can cope at school but at home the emails from teachers are building up. She cries and says she’s a failure and can’t do it. She invents technology issues to avoid the work and says she can’t do it anyway. She becomes hostile when I coax her, which I do, repeatedly, between trying to teach my own classes.
She’s now nocturnal and although I wake her each morning, she falls asleep between lessons. I am going to attend a sleep clinic to try to get some support.
AIBU to stop the constant coaxing now and just try to get her well? She’s agreed to go to school as a key worker student now and she tends to mask her autism at school so hopefully she will manage to work. I just can’t do it anymore- it’s making her and me unhappy. She’s gone from being on track to pass everything to probably failing most things and I just don’t know if she can catch up now. She’s resistant to me helping her in any way.
CAMHS are contacting school and I’ve asked school for support and to help with the autism referral- though I’ve had no reply as of yet.
I feel like I’m failing her.