To feel a bit queasy after reading a problem on the problem page in one of the womens weekly mags?

[RandZsMummy]

Hi everyone I?ve been reading the threads for a couple of days now but this is the first time ive posted so please be nice to me

Don?t know if this has been done before but ive just read a problem in one of the womens mags and it made me feel a bit queasy as well as making me feel really sorry for the girl who wrote in. this is what she wrote

? I am a 24 year old single mum. My daughter is nearly 9 and I love her to bits . I lost my virginity when I was 13 ? I was a bit wild, and while my mum didn?t care my dad always told me off. I could get around him easily though. When he started making advances towards me I thought that if I got him into a situation I could blackmail him. I waited in my bedroom in my underwear and when I called him he came in naked. We had a full sexual intercourse about six times and I felt grown up. After that whenever mum was out we had sex. I was worried about getting pregnant, but dad said he would take care of me. I got pregnant with my daughter and he kept his word. I had other boyfriends but the never lasted and now that mum and dad have split up dad is a regular visitor to my house. He wants us to move away and be a proper couple. I told him I wanted another child so after trying for a while im now two months pregnant. I know people wont approve but I feel more secure with my dad that anyone else.?

After reading what this poor girl had written I was so and that some one could do this to their own child is just so out of order.

Hi - welcome to MN

What on earth was the reply?

Poor child.

Which magazine was this?

it was best 16 oct

Ah, a quality publication.

I stopped reading problem pages when I was 14 and realised most of them were made up.

Actually, it sounds like something you would get in some of these trashy magazines.....

Or on the Jeremy Kyle show!

it just really got to me cos my dad would NEVER act like that and i just cant believe that there r some parents out there who do act like that towards their kids.

Awful if it's true, simply awful. But most of these letters are made up. Sent in by freaks and teenagers (or freaky teenagers ) or made up by the staff themselves.

whilst i share your horror at the man's action's this is now an adult woman.

she must know, in some part of her that this is wrong as she has felt the need to share her worries with a womans magazine.
i would hope the agony aunt has pointed out that her relastionship is wrong and her children are at a great risk of developmental problems.

her father is clearly very predatory and has taken advantage of his childs very vulnerable state.
she has confused a natural love for her father for sexual.

that is very true probably is made up but what a bloody thing to make up! I don?t actually buy the mags my mum buys every single one going and then gives them to me once shes done (her version of recycling )

Well R, 99.9999999999999999999999999999999% of dad's would not act like this.

It's not normal.

But such things do happen, sadly.

It's a very unpleasant subject tbh. If you don't mind, I'm going to bugger off now (bury my head in the sand, if you like) and go talk about something less disturbing.

Hope to catch up with you around the board on other topics.

Welcome to MN.

i remember writing in awful made up nonsense to Just 17 when i was about 13. Never got printed though.

but seriously 0 if this person knows it is a problem enough to write to a problem pages, she must know something is up.
and won't the child have some problems from being yo know., of a rather limited gene pppoool?

did I just make a terrible apostrophe error? {blush]

Not my night, is it?

I meant

This is the reply by lorraine kelly

?I am so sorry for you. Your father has acted in a vile and despicable way by taking advantage of you when you were only 13. you might think you knew what you were doing but you were only a kid. You obviously wanted love and affection from somewhere and he has preyed on that. As well as being against the law this relationship is pure poison. You and your daughter are the victims here and so is your unborn child. Any child you have your father stands and far higher chance of physical disability or deformity as well as the mental health risks. You must not let him back into your life and you cannot be a couple. This is incest and a relationship built on lies and deceit. You say he makes you feel secure but you mist know deep in your heart that this has blighted your life. you must break free for yourself and your children. You need professional help you can talk to the rape and sexual abuse centre helpline?

Hekate - did you just make a terrible apostrophe error? NO! It's only an error when you put the apostrophe in its wrong place. 'Its' is like 'his' and 'hers'. You wouldn't write hi's and her's, would you?

Dads.

Dad's wouldn't act like this

Dad's what?

That's the one I'm on about.

Well at least the reply sums up the situation perfectly. So whether the original letter is genuine or not, the reply would be giving good advice to anyone unfortunate enough to have been abused in that way.

Hekate - see - hadn't even noticed!

Agree with fortyplus: the letter was probably genuinely sent to the mag but whether it was someone's experience or the work of pranksters, there are people out there (fortunatley not too many) who are in this situation and therefore it's valid for the mag to run the letter with such a reply.

if it was a genuine letter at least she got some good advice but what a situation to be in

hi themildmanneredjanitor i agree it was a very first post!!